cjc50
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 Posted: Thu Jul 16, 2009 7:40 pm Post subject: Mom diagnosed June 15, 2009 |
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My mom, who will be 80 in late August, was diagnosed last month with PC. The doctors stated that she is not a candidate for surgery and they also did not recommend she go through chemo and radiation treatment.
We actually do not know what stage her cancer is in, but we assume stage 4 since no treatments are recommended for her. I won't ask how long anyone thinks she may have, because of course no one, except God, has the answer to that question.
Mom is now in a nursing home and is doing fairly well. If she weren't so bloated with fluids (extra 40 lbs) she would probably have been able to come home for awhile.
I am an only child and I was the only grandchild, so other than my husband (who is a saint) I am alone with coping, and I am finding it more and more difficult to cope with the fact that she probably won't be here much longer. I did not go see her tonight, and now I'm afraid I will regret this decision forever, especially since I won't be able to go tomorrow night.
I have been reading many posts, looking for different symptoms of disease progression, but I have not seen mention of extreme fluid retention. The nurses said her kidneys might be starting to shut down and I fear her heart will give out before long from overwork.
I have 2 unrelated questions:
How do you cope with your sadness? I have a lot of faith and being Catholic, understand our teachings on suffering, etc., but coping is still challenging.
Is all this fluid retention, both in the abdomen and legs normal for this disease?
Thank you in advance for putting up with this rambling post.
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Mom diagnosed with PC June 15, 2009 |
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ethan20
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| Posted: Sat Jul 18, 2009 4:44 pm Post subject: Re: Mom diagnosed June 15, 2009 |
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| The fluid retention is normal unfortunately. They can easily drain it out of the abdomen if it is causing her any discomfort. My dad died a couple months ago (he was 63 years old). He had a lot of fluid retention in his stomach and one of his legs. Keeping the foot elevated or with a stocking will help. How to cope- I wish I had some good advice. I'm also catholic and I feel like I have a good relation with God but it is hard to make sense of any of this. My dad was my best friend and the love of my little boys' lives. Just spend time with your mom and tell her everything you ever wanted to say. The sad part of this disease is that it doesn't even give you a chance to fight it. You and your mom are in my thoughts. If you have any questions or want to talk please just ask. I check the site periodically. I don't know why, it helps me deal a little with my sadness- to share what I know and have been through. I wish I was able to help someone else. |
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