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mom22girls

Hi. My name is Talena and I was diagnosed with Melanoma in April of this year. I had just given birth to my youngest daughter five weeks earlier and Claire, my oldest daughter was just getting ready to turn 21 months. I thought I was being proactive by getting that little mole removed but knew that the news was bad when the doctor was calling me to come to his office to go over the results.

Long story short, I had a wide excision and skin graft done, SNB was negative (thank God), eight weeks of bed rest (which was extremely difficult with a newborn) and now I am dealing with the emotional trauma. It has been six months since my diagnosis and I am going in a few days to have my blood work and x-ray/mammogram and I am sooooo scared that something is going to come back abnormal. All I want to do is raise my children and see them grow up and have babies of their own.

My husband is extremely supportive. I honestly don't know what I would do without him. He has been beside me every single day being my voice of reason. He has been telling me for a long time to look for a support group and since my anxiety has been rising daily, I decided that now is the time. I have not spoken with my feelings about everything that I have been through with anyone. I told myself that I was just going to focus on being a good mom and not have any negative thoughts about what has happened.

I am scared that the Melanoma is going to reoccur. I don't want to die. I want to be around for a long time. I am sorry this post is so long. I guess that I have more on my mind than I had thought. Thanks to whoever took the time to read this!
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Talena

Wife to Bob and proud mommy to Claire (6-8-07) and Paige (3-2-09)

Diagnosed with Melanoma 4-6-09

brainman

Hi Talena. I am very sorry about your Melanoma. I too live with fear that my Brain Cancer will recur... it already has once. Fortunately, I have lived long enough to see my children graduate from High School and see the birth of 4 grandchildren. I hope that you get to do that as well. There is no reason why not. I am not sure how long you or I have to live. Although it is a lot easier said than done, the best we can do is to live one day at a time and to try and make the most out of every day. I am sure your children take up a lot of your time just make sure that some of that time is creating wonderful memories with them.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Jim
Administrator and long-term cancer survivor
1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendroglioma grade 3, same location.
http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=2405
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=2528
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 3: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
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