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 Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 7:56 pm Post subject: Grammy has rare strand of stomach cancer |
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Got the news today.....grammy has a rare strand of stomach cancer, fast acting, doesn't respond well to chemo but may prolong her time....i don't know what to say i don't know what to do...i call her every sunday and we talk for hours, exchange receipes, talk about new teas we have tried...i call her whenever i see a new receipe to try on the cooking network, we call each other just because....she loves tea, she bought me a tea cup and saucer set with octber on it for my birthday and fuses at me for never using it, i can hear her now telling me nothing like tea make in a old time china cup....its like this can't be real...she only has the fatigue for now and she is dreading the time to come. doc said it is unreal to be found this early...grampy is in total denail becasue he says she is not acting like someone with cancer....she is my rock, she is my go to everything, i talked to grammy for two hours in JC Penny's picking out new dishes, we talked and talked about patterns, the folks must of thought we were nuts, me taking pictures with my cell phone and sending to her so she could help me pick out the pattern....after 83 years she has has to endure this...I know the man upstairs controls it all but it stinks not seeing the play book...
I have read the threads here and everyone is so kind and supportive, I did not know where else to turn....I wish everyone peace and stregnth as they bare their crosses and challenges too...
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| Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 8:42 pm Post subject: Re: Grammy has rare strand of stomach cancer |
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Thank you for you kindess and well wishes! The docs keep calling it a rare strand that is new to "them" and its very aggressive. We are all so frustrated. We have done as much searching as we can but but we can't find anything either. All we know is it stared in the tubes that would have been connected to her galbladder. She had her gallbladde removed over 10 years ago but the tubes are still there. We know it went from there and infected her pertioneal wall and has spread like mad from there. She has the beginning symptoms that they figure would have gotten her to the doctor in a week or so. We know it is aggressive and fast moving. we know in june she had zero signs and zero tumors. Now the empty area in her stomach is the twice the size of a golf ball because of the size and volume of tumors. We know it has spread to her pancreas. They have told her that she stage ii for cancer of the pancreas but they are going to treat her for that because, this strand of stomach cancer will take my grammy before the pancreas is stage iii to iv.....
It is all still such a shock....two weeks ago she was canning and now she is laying on the couch, exhausted with no appetite. She sounds so tired when I talk to her. There is no spit fire in her voice anymore......she said tonight to remember she loves her little tish and when she said goodbye i asked her not say that anymore, how about we end our conversations with talk to you again soon.......
i just don't know what else to say...she is my rock...my best friend.....she asked me to still make home made bread and teach my granddaughter how to keep the tradition going........conversations i never thought i would ever have...
Again, thank you for the kindness and support, what a wonderful place to go to and unload..
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Tish, I can imagine the overwhelming turmoil this has through your family into. For me, it was like every froze. For some time, I no longer had a future. As the yes have past, I have regained some hope of a future. However, I still very deeply know that I am not promised or guaranteed a future.
I do not know how long your grandmother has... especially since I do not know specifically what cell type the cancer is. All I can suggest is that you and your family act as her "dream factory." What are those things that she would still like to do? Who would she still like to see or talk to? And then use each new day to try to make those things possible.
hugs {{{Tish}}}
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grammystish
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 8:48 am Post subject: Re: Grammy has rare strand of stomach cancer |
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This is a place I never thought I would be...again...so glad I found this forum..they gave it a name yesterday adenocarcinoma of the stomach that has penetrated the stomach lining, several large tumors in her stomach, and has penetrated her pancreas and her left lung....text book says are current growth rate two months, with chemo IF the tumors react well and IF she reacts well to the chemo maybe a year...IF IF IF, no one really knows do they.....I saw what the side effects did and how it wore down my father and when the ascites moved in all the bloating and then the sever weight loss and anmeia...to think and know what she is in for is tearing my guts out....as the calls and visits slow down she is sinking more and more into herself and less wanting to talk to anyone or get up and do like she used too..I fear she is giving in....her first round of chemo is now wednesday, they did all the prepping for it thursday, weight height and more lab work...
what is going to happen to her, what is she in store for, will she suffer, will she not feel the cancer taking her........so many questions, very little answers...i just want hug her and hold her and take it all away...i hate being so far away...
Jim - thank you for your support and for letting me to your world, for posting your challenges and thoughts too! Grammy said she just feels numb to it all also.. she knew what was going on but until the biopsy was results were back it is like it wasn't real yet, still hope they were wrong, still hope all the tumors wouldn't be c..in a stupper, doesn't know which way to turn or what to do. I don't want to bring it up if she doesn't want to talk about it, it sits in the air, the demon no one talks about, yet it is right there on the edge of every conversation...there is no laughter anymore when we talk, doom and gloom fills the phone line..her fire is an amber now, i hope and pray this will change, but do i have a right too...
hugs and well wishes to all here, what a hell of a common bond to have, but at least there is a place to go to vent to get it out...
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