My Dads diagnosis

Killarney · New User Joined: 29 Aug 2008 Posts: 2

Hi, Glad I found this forum. There is a lot of helpful information which has helped me get a better understanding of my Dads condition.
To give you a bit of back ground information. My father hasn't been 100% since January, he was blaming everything from food not agreeing with him to constipation. Eventually we got him to go to his GP to get it sorted. His GP sent him to hospital where he underwent a CT scan. This showed up "spots" in his pancreas, liver and kidney. He went for a biopsy and was told the initial tests were inconclusive.
A couple of days later we had a meeting with the surgeon, I went along with my Mother and Father expecting to hear the worst. The surgeon told us the biopsy was inconclusive and they need to do another one. He did tell us that he thinks it is cancer and they need to find out where it started. My Dad was fine with this. The surgeon then asked me to go with him to organise Dads next appointment. He took me into the room next door and told me to sit down.
He told me that my Dad definately has cancer and its "very nasty". He told me that it has also spread to his lungs and that there are a number of tumors on each organ up to 3cm. He told me that by christmas my Dad is going to be in a very bad condition and its going to be his last christmas and we have to be ready for it.
My Dad is going to find out how bad things are this week when we have another meeting with the surgeon. I'm worried about how he's going to take it. The worst thing is that if you looked at my Dad you wouldn't think there is anything wrong with him. He cut the grass and cut down a tree in the garden the other day. He is in really good form.
I'm just wondering how quickly will Dad's condition worsen given the extent of the cancer.
Any feedback at all is more than welcome.
Thanks

jessica026 · Regular Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 39

i am sorry about your dad..i wish no one else would ever have to go through this.

If the drs are giving him until xmas then i can only assume that the cancer is very advanced and that he will probably progress quickly.
Of course i only have my own experience to go by and I am not a dr but in our case it went so fast...mom was at work, and feeling pretty decent and then 3 weeks later she was gone....so in our case it was FAST.

you will start noticing differences in your dad too..he will have pain, he will get tired, he will sleep alot, and you should spend all the time you can now...my mom got so tired and confused so fast that i never really got to say what i wanted to say while she was lucid.

this sounds so grimm and morbid i am sorry Sad

how old is your dad?

Killarney · New User Joined: 29 Aug 2008 Posts: 2

Hi Jessica,

Thanks for the reply. Sorry about your Mother. Dad is 70 in October, we have been talking about having a big party for him and inviting all his friends and family. I think we would have to have it in the afternoon because he goes to bed quite early now. I think we'll let him decide whether he wants one or not nearer the time.

K.

JLC · Regular Joined: 18 May 2008 Posts: 23

Killarney,

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. PC is a nasty, nasty thing. My mom passed June 5. Like Jessica's mom, my mom's experience was much quicker than we had anticipated. My best advice is love while you can, have fun while you can, enjoy him while you can. Say what you need to say. And most importantly be there for him. You, your father, and your family will be in my heart and my thoughts. Much love to you right now.

JLC.
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Dad ~ diagnosed with EC in 2001 and cancer free since 2003.

Mom ~ Passed away June 2008 from pancreatic cancer.

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