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primrose
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 Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 2:33 am Post subject: information on cancer... |
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Is cancer follow the generation? For example, if the mother was died with blood cancer, does it mean that the daughter will also die with the same types of cancer or other types of cancer. One of my friend's mother was passed away by blood cancer when she was 2. Her grandpa also died by cancer and now she think that she is going to die by cancer and everytime when she feels ill, she thinks that she is starting to suffering from cancer and over worried. How can i encourage her? Also what she thinks is possible or not?
I hope somebody can answer because i really want to help that friend. I would be appreciate all the reply and answer.
Best regards.
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 6:20 pm Post subject: Re: information on cancer... |
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| Firstlly, some cancers are genetically linked, but by no means all, and if there are only two deaths from cancers in her family, it is will be unlucky if she too develops it. Secondly she is far more likely to be suffering from hypochondria and the fear of illness than from cancer. I would be inclined to be slightly cool about any suggestion of cancer;if she persists, then point out the only way of being sure is to see a doctor. |
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primrose
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| Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 11:01 am Post subject: further info |
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hi,
Thanks for your reply. Apart from my friend's case if a person is suffering from cancer, what is most effective way that we can help him. I mean how can we encourage him or how can we help him to fell relief?
Because sometimes if i meet those people suffering from any types of cancer, they seem like very depress and i also don't know how to encourage them. So i just simply stay quietly and looked at them.
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 3:16 pm Post subject: encouragement |
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Well now, there's a question! Firstly, offer help - cooking, shopping, driving to appointments, cleaning, washing, ironing. The person may turn them all down, but the offer will be welcome.
Secondly, be prepared to listen if they want to vent their frustrations or fears. Many treatments leave people emotional and tired. It can help to be allowed to rant about things.
Thirdly, make sure you know about the disease and its treatment so that you can help them to research their own way forward when they are ready to do so. Do not push opinions or ideas at them - that will just irritate.
Remember that many cancers are treatable and that diagnosis should not be seen as a death sentence. It can be a chronic condition, but often it is the treatment and not the disease from which the person is suffering.
Above all, keep in mind that the fear of cancer is far worse than most realities.
I hope this helps. |
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