brainman
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 Posted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 6:02 am Post subject: To Hojo |
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[quote=hojo] I'm 21 and just lost my dad to melanoma cancer. He was falling and having trouble with short term memory so I took him to the hospital where they did an MRI and found over 6 tumors in his brain and 3 spots in his lungs.
They did whole brain radiation on his brain and he appeared to be getting better. Two days after he finished his radiation, he was having horrible pains in his legs. Once again, we rushed him to the hospital only to discover that the cancer had already spread down his spine. During his week long stay, he lost his ability to walk. They began radiation, but realized that it had stopped working. He also had a severe allergic reaction to the drug he was on and the doctors put him on hospice. I stayed at home with him during the day and took care of him. I could not go back to school because he wanted to be at home and my mom needed to work.
One evening I left for work and also went to see my boyfriend for awhile. When I came home, my dad was sleeping which was weird because he always waited up for me. I told him goodnight, but he didn't reply. When I awoke later that night to give him his pills he wouldn't wake up. He stayed in a coma-like state for a week without eating or drinking. It was horrible to see him that way, and in many ways, the worse part of the whole disease. He died September 6th.
I am also at a lose as to what to do. I didn't go to school this semester because I wanted to spend every minute I could with my dad. So know, my life feels pretty empty during the day and I'm searching for something to do. If you hear of anything, please let me know.
God Bless and Keep being strong. Also, I've found it helps to write down all the memories you have. My biggest fear is that as I get older my memory of my dad will fade, so this helps to ease that fear.[/quote]
Hi hojo, I hope you don't mind that I started a thread for you. It is just that I want to reply to you and not hijack someone else's thread.
I am truly sorry about your father's death. My father died on Sep 8, 1996... almost exactly 1 year before your father's death. My father had ALL, one of the many forms of leukemia. He developed an infection that just overwhelmed his body. I too feel empty... especially Saturdays. That is the day we used to go out together, eat lunch at his favorite restaurant, and then get home in time to hear the opera on the radio.
What you are doing here on this forum serves as a memorial to your father. You are reaching out to others who need your help and support. I personally appreciate your efforts or I would not have taken the time to start a thread for you 
Best wishes,
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Jim
Site Administrator and long-term cancer survivor
1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
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