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kpruett
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 Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 7:49 pm Post subject: Michigan Single Father of 2 young son needs help and support |
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Hello. ok, this is the 2nd time i tried writing this. The 1st time it all got deleted before I could send it and I lost it all.
I wont go into great deal this time around, but I will say that I went into emergency this past fri for what i though was an ongoing problem with my congested right lung and possible a pinched nerver in my shoulder area.
The reason it took me so long (3 months) to go in is because I have a very severe phobia of anything medical. It makes me sick just to think about going. Very,very sick!
Anyways. I went in finally and they gave me a catscan and lung xray. Dr came back and said she found alot of cancer in my brain and a mass in my lung, and that she wanted me to be admitted that night. I told them I couldnt do that because I'm a 45 yr old single father of 2 young sons, ages 8 and 10, and that they were with me in the waiting room. The dr did everything she could to talk me into staying, but ultimatly released me by signature and told me to call a dr. she recommends, since I didnt have one of my own. Well, it was late fri night and i planned on calling the dr recomended by her this morning(mon) which I did. Come to find out, he didnt accept medicaid, of which I have applied for and will be recieving shortly(they will go back 3 months and pay).
My problem now is finding a dr who will accept me right now without my official medicaid in effect. I have to wait for my girlfriend to get here from Cali. on aug 5th before I can go in, because I need her support, love, encouragent and caring for myself as well as someone to care for the boys in case they put me in the hospital for period of time, which I'm almost sure is going to happen. Its killing me to think about losing myself to the boys. I am all they have, and visa versa! We are the 3 amigos.
Does anyone have any words of support, encouragement, and information of what to expect in all this, and most importantly where I can be seen by a caring and understanding dr in MICHIGAN who will accept me as a phobic, without medicaid, and lil or no money in my pocket at the moment?
Do all of us "poor" people just have to lay back and die while waiting for coverage?
I'm so sick and so very scared of the outcome, my position, and for my children right now, I'm losing so much sleep, food, and tears.
Hope to hear from someone soon!
Thanks for listening!
Kevin
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jfkbluecircle
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 8:37 pm Post subject: Re: Michigan Single Father of 2 young son needs help and support |
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Hi, Kevin,
I am so sorry for the multi-dimensional problems you are facing. It must seem overwhelming.
First, it is a very good thing that you have seen a doctor. I know your insurance is up in the air, but it will work out. Bureaucracy stinks and the paperwork can sometimes seem more like it is hurting than helping.
Second, I am glad that your girlfriend is coming soon. It will help to have her there for any given number of reasons.
Third, I would consider calling your original doctor for a referral to a specialist who will accept you with your insurance predicament. If she cannot think of one, ask if her office manager or insurance coordinator has access to such information.
Last (and certainly not least) I am glad you have found this forum. You will hear from folks who are going through similar things and I hope you will find some comfort in that support. There are many who visit here that care deeply for the struggles people face with this illness. You also might want to post to the "Financial Issues" thread on this site to see if any people in that audience have sounder advice than me.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, and your boys: the 3 amigos  .
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kpruett
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 9:31 pm Post subject: Michian Single Father.... |
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Hi Jessica,
And thank you for writing. You said "I would consider calling your original doctor for a referral to a specialist who will accept you with your insurance predicament", and I would do so, if I knew who it was that i saw that evening in emergency. After being told what she said to me, I was in never never land, living a nightmare of which I am still living.
I'll keep tryng and also have written to a program called 4th angel, Its supposed to be a mentor program run by survivors. They match you up with survivors of the same incidents that match. Its a part of the cleveland cance hospital.
Anways, I'll keep trying. I thank you, as I am very very scared and feel very very alone and living in the unknown right now.
Sincerley,
Kevin
[quote="jfkbluecircle"]Hi, Kevin,
I am so sorry for the multi-dimensional problems you are facing. It must seem overwhelming.
First, it is a very good thing that you have seen a doctor. I know your insurance is up in the air, but it will work out. Bureaucracy stinks and the paperwork can sometimes seem more like it is hurting than helping.
Second, I am glad that your girlfriend is coming soon. It will help to have her there for any given number of reasons.
Third, I would consider calling your original doctor for a referral to a specialist who will accept you with your insurance predicament. If she cannot think of one, ask if her office manager or insurance coordinator has access to such information.
Last (and certainly not least) I am glad you have found this forum. You will hear from folks who are going through similar things and I hope you will find some comfort in that support. There are many who visit here that care deeply for the struggles people face with this illness. You also might want to post to the "Financial Issues" thread on this site to see if any people in that audience have sounder advice than me.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, and your boys: the 3 amigos .
Best,
Jessica[/quote]
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| Posted: Tue Aug 28, 2007 5:03 am Post subject: Re: Michigan Single Father of 2 young son needs help and support |
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To one of the 3 Amigos'.
First of all, i'm deeply sorry for your news, stress and deep phobia. I'm excatly the same with anything medical - ever since the age of 6. When i had my toncils out.  - and let me tell you, the same Dr saw me 15 years later, and still had the teeth marks. 
Anyway, i know the feeling. And still have to be dragged, kicking to any App. The great thing is you had the sense to dragg youself. And now we can move foward and get this thing beat.
It's good knowing your girlfriend will be there for you and the boys. Family and love ones are special at these times, and can ease your worry a little too.
I hope you get the finanical worked out, and you get the information and support you need. But do remember 'WE' are here for you too. To rant, rave, complain, and even winge.
Hope to hear from you soon, on all things.
Take Care. Thinking of you and the boys
kisses to the boys. Inica
p.s Remeber "once bitten, twice shy" 
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