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cheerchick269
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 Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2006 7:42 pm Post subject: my little sister has cancer...help |
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In October 05, my 8 year old sister was dx with cancer. ever since then my mom and her have been back and forth to memphis. its my freshman year in high school, and i dont have a mother. my sister gets all this attention, and i'm just forgotten, just the child that sits back, and messes up. i have no one to talk to about it. anyone who can talk to me, please do.
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mssue
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| Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:04 pm Post subject: Re: Sister |
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Hi Chelsea,
I am sorry You are having to deal with all of this,it's easy to feel left out.You have alot to deal with, school and everything else that is going on in your life right now,you are not alone-so what if you mess up every now and again,we learn from our mistakes,but that doesn't make You a bad person. Your Mom loves You too,she is just having to deal with all of this and be there for your sister right now-it is a very very difficult situation to be in.I know about going through the cancer myself ,Lord knows if one of my children had to go through all of that I am not sure I could bare it.Please don't exclude Yourself from Your Family whether You or they realize it or not they need Your strength and Your love.It's hard to shift gears in mid stream but if You make Yourself available to Your Mom and Sister with sincere honesty things might flow a little smoother. Your little Sister is fighting for her life in which Your Mother is trying to do everything possible so that she survives,I am sure she is not intentionally leaving You out.What would You do and how do You think You would act if You were in Your Sisters shoes,what would You expect from her or Your Mother?
Please think about the big picture. Cancer does not discriminate, it takes people young and old. Helping out Your family,wash some dishes if Your Mother's tired,tidy up the house or it could be something as simple as just being there to listen.I believe if You just go up and hug Your Mother and or Your Sister and let them know how You feel and let them know You Love them and need them too,things will more than likely soften up and make comunication easier.
My thoughts and prayers are with You and Your Family-keep Your chin up and try to be patient, it will all come around.Let me know how things go.
(((BIG HUGS)))
with love
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brainman
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AuntieA
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| Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 1:18 pm Post subject: Find help |
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Find someone or a group that can help you meet your needs, a school counselor or cancer support group. I am sure there are people that can offer you the support and some of what your mom is not able to give you at this time. Your life has changed to find some one that can help you sort through it.
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anne
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| Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2006 7:34 am Post subject: Re: my little sister has cancer...help |
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hi,
Not a good time huh?
As a mother I can see why your Mum would spend so much time and attention on your sis. She loves her and is probably scared that she is gonna lose her. Its not that she doesn't love you. Its the fact that she is scared she's gonna lose your sis and is too scared to leave her, etc. because things my get worse.
Your Mum stills loves you, but at the moment she's preoccupied. she's scared, she unsure of the future,
Ask her if she wants help. Cuddle her, she probably needs it as much as you do . |
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