help me:(

cheerchick269 · New User Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 5

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so yesterday was my birthday and i went to spend it with my sister, who has osteosarcoma *bone cancer*, and my mom...my boyfriend and i drove 3 hours to get there, and i got yelled at. i mean seriously, it was my birthday. i dont know what to even do anymore, i have no middle ground. when i'm home i'm yelled at cause i'm in a house of 3 guys me being the only girl, and it clashes most of the time, all my friends are out of town in places i hsould be cause its summer break...when i'm not with my boyfriend he's out doing something else *i dont blame him* but he's especially not there when i need him most...and i'm so afraid to confront anyone in person, so i have to do it like this where no one knows me, and i know no one. this is the last time i'm gonna post on here for help i think cause no one ever seems to reply. i know i sound pathetic but i'm really not, i'm just desperate for some middle ground, and someone to turn to for help...even if its on a forum!!!!!! please help me Sad

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tilo · Regular Joined: 27 Apr 2006 Posts: 21

Chelsea
I'm not sure why you were yelled at... but I know that stress and frustration come out in ways that are hurtful sometimes. This is obviously a very difficult time for you right now, and I hope you can find someone to talk to about your feelings.
Sometimes I think people don't always reply to posts, but they get comfort in reading others who feel the same way they do, though they don't know what to say... that doesn't mean people aren't thinking about you or aren't sympathetic to you.
Sending best wishes and strength, take care
Tilo

rsmith · New User Joined: 26 May 2006 Posts: 2 Location: California

I agree with the last post. A lot of people read posts but don't reply; they don't always know what to say. You should find someone to talk to that will listen to YOU. A close friend, a teacher, a priest. Posting here is good, but being able to sit down with someone and "get things off your chest" is better.

Good luck.

cheerchick269 · New User Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 5

i wish it were that easy, but it most definately isn't. i'm out of school and trust no teachers at my school anyway. i can't say much to my friends cause i realy dont have anyone...plus it makes me feel stupid...i just find it easier to pretend i'm great...but inside i'm dying...as for the priest...i dont go to church anymore, ever since my little sisteer was dx i dont go...my mom was the only on in my family that went and now since shes out of town with my sister i have no way of going. so i'm stuck in a pretending bubble. thanks for your help though. the only person i would ever think to run to would be my boyfriend but i can't...i dont want to bring him down too because when i get emotionally it always makes him cry...so i just let sleeping dogs lie i spose...
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DJW · Posted: Sat Jun 10, 2006 7:22 am Post subject: Re: help me:(

Cheerchick,

Hey, I like the username? Are you still in Cheerleading, or did you give it up? I am sorry you can't make it to Church, I think that can be fixed, but lets start with what is the problem now ok?

I am going to ask my daughter (14) if she will reply to you, I think she will have a better idea of what you are going throught than me, so please hang on a bit ok? She is a teenager, so naturally she sleeps in! When she gets up, I wll ask her to follow up with this post ok? She is struggling too with a lot of "issues" maybe you can help each other?

There is only one thing that I would like to say, I'm just an "old" dad type, so take it anyway you want, but I would like you to try to remember one thing:

Blood is thicker that Water. As much as your family may aggravate you, and you may feel that your friends and boyfriend are the best people to talk to (and they may be) please don't forget that your family is your blood and no matter what they always will be. Please try to bite your lip sometimes when it comes to them, because they may drive you crazy today, but there will be times in your life when you need someone desperately to lean on, and they will be there when no one else will be.

Hang in there Chelsea, It is always "darkest before the dawn."
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DJW · Posted: Sat Jun 10, 2006 9:19 am Post subject: Re: help me:(

Chelsea,

Hey im 14 and im kinda going through the same thing. when i got up this morning my dad asked me to talk to you and i said sure. so here i am going on about nothing basicly. lol anyway so your sister has bone cancer? ya that sucks my mom has lung cancer and its really hard to concentrate on anything but that. and my friends all my friends live either by my moms house(im not allowed there cuz no one is there) so im stuck at my dad's idk even know any one here. so i was just letting you know that you can always send me a message or an IM or something to talk.

i know that its really hard and all but you gotta talk to some one and you're right its a lot easier to talk to someone you dont know. so if you wanna IM me ill send it to you by PM ok?

good luck hon i know you can make it through all this it might seem like you wont but you will.[/b][/color]
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cheerchick269 · New User Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 5

it would be amazing to have someone who knows what i'm going through...well more or less....to talk to. no one around where i'm from knows how to relate or even try to...thanks:)

and tell your dad that i wish biting my tongue is easier said than done...its just all so unfair, and for everyone to take their emotions out on me is just hard to deal with day after day. so i tend to stay in my room and throw a tennis ball at the wall for hours upon end
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bethanyaok · Posted: Sat Jun 10, 2006 10:07 pm Post subject: Re: help me:(

Hi Cheerchick! Check out www.cancercare.org They're a great group. They offer FREE counseling for people with cancer and their family members. They do it on the phone or online. They also have support groups, also on the phone and online. I think you can get lots of support there! And Chelsea too, you might find someone here who is helpful to talk to!!

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Bethany
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