An Introduction

Loving husband · Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 12:08 pm Post subject: An Introduction

I am a man of 56 summers married to a beautiful lady of 61 Very Happy

We have been together for almost 37 years Surprised

Within the last month she has been diagnosed with malignant tumours on one of her ovaries with associated metastasis to her lungs. Due to being badly affected with a build-up of fluid on her abdomen and lungs (the latter successfully drained) causing severe breathing difficulties she has been hospitalised for most of that time.
She has yet to attend the oncology clinic in the neighbouring city as we're still waiting for confirmation of the actual date - tomorrow or next Thursday (there's only one per week Shocked

). Unfortunately, due to her weakened condition, the doctors doubt that they can put her on chemo- or radio-therapy until she improves considerably ... Surgery is not an option as they strongly doubt that she would survive the anaesthetic.
In the meantime I've started her on flaxseed oil in cottage cheese or yogurt - 3-4 tablespoons per day - plus Blue-Green Algae capsules, Green Tea Extract tablets, and Aloe Vera Juice in the hopes of bolstering her general health and immune system.
Any advice as to anything else I can do to improve her chances would be most gratefully received.
Please!
If she dies I do not want to go on living so you might be saving two lives.

Ps. I usually blend some fresh fruit with the oil before mixing it with the cottage cheese or yogurt (mostly seedless grapes). One time it was Kiwi Fruit - I believe they're also called Chinese Gooseberries. DON'T! The resulting mix curdles and becomes almost inedible. If you do manage to get it down it won't be long before you see it again Embarassed

Sorry, sweetheart Embarassed

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Robinflamingo · Regular Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 25 Location: Michigan

My question is why aren't they draining the fluid off her abdomen? When I entered the hospital, they took 5 liters of fluid off my lungs and 11 off my abdomen. I IMMEDIATELY felt better. I mean INSTANTLY. The cancer was still there, but my energy, my breathing, my blood pressure all improved dramatically.

Be careful with herbal stuff because some of it can be counter productive to any meds they may be giving her. Check with your oncologist to be sure.

I've had 8 rounds of chemo and surgery, and lost 90 pounds. What really helped me is to go on the diabetic diet. Cancer loves sugar, so the less of that the better, including the very sweet fruits. Make sure she gets the superfoods:

Black beans
Blueberries
Broccoli
Dark (not milk) chocolate
Oats
Onions
Oranges
Sweet potato (or pumpkin)
Salmon (preferably wild)
Soy
Spinach
Tea (preferably green)
Tomatoes
Turkey
Walnuts
Yogurt

Vitamin B is important and good for her too. They told me not to take E. I'm not sure why, but again, I'd check.

God bless - keep us posted.
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Loving husband · Posted: Sun Feb 11, 2007 10:35 am Post subject: Re: An Introduction

Have to make this a quicky as I'm readying the house for an invasion of heating engineers in the morning to renew every component of the central heating system ... Originally I'd composed a lengthy and detailed reply last night then, just as I was performing the final proof-reading, the flaming computer crashed and I lost the lot Mad

Anyhoo ... Thanks for the response, Robinflamingo Very Happy

All the food additives I'm giving her are just part of the "Budwig Diet". The rest will have to wait until she'd back home.
Like you, I'm also puzzled as to why they won't drain the abdominal fluid when it is so obviously causing her such discomfort and breathing distress Rolling Eyes

They just won't say exactly why. Maybe it will change once she's attended the oncology clinic next week.

Otherwise I can only trust in the infinite mercy of God.
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Loving husband · Posted: Wed Feb 14, 2007 11:51 am Post subject: Re: An Introduction

I am afraid my lovely wife has had a relapse over the last 24 hours and is still far too ill to start chemo. The best they can offer is steroids to aid her breathing so that they may be able to drain some of the fluid from her abdomen, and Tamoxifen to hopefully reduce the tumours slightly and get her back home with me so I can care for her.

I beg of you to pray for her. The mercy of God is now my only hope.
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Loving husband · Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 6:16 am Post subject: Re: An Introduction

With a heavy heart I am forced to report that my darling wife, the love of my life, my best friend, the only good thing in my miserable existence finally lost her fight with cancer and passed away at approximately 02:45 GMT this morning. By the Grace of God she had been unconscious for the last 36 hours and knew nothing of it, so her final lucid memories were of having her hair shampood and cut for the first time in weeks - which she enjoyed immensely.
I wish to thank all the members of this and the other boards who prayed for her during her final weeks in this plane of existence. I also wish to thank the staff of Rotherham Hospice for alerting me in time for me to hold her as she breathed her last and for all the care and attention they lavished on her over the last few days.
My life must go on, but it will never be the same again without her at my side.

Please look after your loved ones: You never know when they may be ripped from you!
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Robinflamingo · Regular Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 25 Location: Michigan

God bless you and yours as you work to find your place in the world without your beloved wife. I'm sure she is watching over you, and will always be right beside you in your heart. How beloved she was! How blessed to have you.
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