kllylove
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 Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 12:18 pm Post subject: help coping with my mom's death |
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Hi all,
I've never posted here or anywhere like here before but I thought maybe this could help because honestly I just don't know what to do anymore. It is the 9 month anniversary of my mom's death today and I just miss her so much and no one around me seems to understand. My friends just seem to throw pity at me at random times and some of my closest friends don't even seem to realize some of the things i'm going through. I'm 21 years old, and so lost. My dad abandoned my mom when she got sick and remarried 2 months after she died, so it is safe to say I can't talk to him anymore and he has cut me off in every way possible, so I am completely on my own. I have two brothers who are 20, but they need more help than anyone and they are both currently in rehab, so i can't even call them for help when I need it. I really need to get this one experience off my back because it really hurt me and no one understands why I was upset except for my best friend, who was like a daughter to my mom, and has been grieving right along with me. I was at the beach last week with two close friends and we went and got our fortunes read. The minute I sat down the man said, "I love your french manicure, your mom gets that done too I bet", and from then on I just got really upset and I really should have just walked out but instead let him go on and just didn't really listen to what he had to say. So I told my friend this after we left the place, and she was just like "i dont understand why you are so upset" blah blah blah. um HELLO. i immediately called my best friend and before I even said how upset i was she immediately just started screaming about how horrible that was and made me feel a lot better because she totally understood. I don't know, it was such a weird little incident, but it really stuck with me. All in all, I've been in a really depressive state all week and I don't know how to snap out of it. I'm just really confused on how to go on with life without my mother and how to even act. I feel a lot of the times I'm just a shell of my former self. I know she wants me to go on and be happy but sometimes I just feel like giving up completely and becoming some kind of hermit ha. Somedays, I never leave my apartment. I miss her so much, she was my best friend in the entire world. I just need any kind of help or support anyone can throw my way because I'm in a very bad place right now, thanks so much.
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brainman
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Joined: 13 Oct 2005
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Location: Tennessee
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:07 pm Post subject: Re: help coping with my mom's death |
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Kelly, I am so sorry about your mother's death and your lack of adequate support from your family and friends! It is horrible how people who do not have feelings of their own can gloss over your feelings. I hope you can find some support here.
Have you thought about finding a grief support group or a counselor in your area? I know how beneficial it was for me to have someone to talk to face-to-face!
I hope and pray that you find what you are looking for... Peace, Love, and Joy.
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1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
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