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swenson96825
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:44 am    Post subject: Need help coping. Mother dying Reply with quote
I'm new to the forum. I'm simply at a loss. I don't know what to do or say to my mom.

My mother has been fighting cancer since Nov 2004. They couldn't find the primary site so they have been treating for all kinds of cancer. It spread to the liver, she had one liver lobe removed, it spread to the other lobe, gall bladder, lymph nodes, kidneys, and lungs. About a month ago the doctors told her there is nothing more they can do. She's now very confused and tried to swallow her wedding ring yesterday. She thought it was her medication. It's so difficult to see her like this. What do I do or say? How can I help her? How can I help my dad? Any advice or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Crying or Very sad
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Vee Smith
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:03 am    Post subject: Re: Need help coping. Mother dying Reply with quote
I am so sorry - this is always a hard time for those caring for the person. There is little advice except to be patient and constant; remember that touch and hearing are senses that remain. Talk to her, reassure her, hold her hand - all may help.

There is a wonderful posting you might like to read in Inspirational Stories: http://www.cancerforums.net/about6708.html. It may help you face what is happening.
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brainman
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:21 pm    Post subject: Re: Need help coping. Mother dying Reply with quote
I totally agree with Vee Sad You are facing a very difficult time and there is not much you can do. You do sound like a very caring person and you are the type of person your mother needs right now. Reassurance of your presence with her whether by words or a gentle touch will go a long way to helping her find peace.

Having said that, I have found that if you do not have peace about what is going on, it is hard for you to help others find peace. Do you have a strong support system for yourself? This forum can help a little but there is nothing like a flesh and bones support system.

I will keep you and your mother in my thoughts and prayers.
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