Hello Everyone, New Here.

V · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 1:20 am Post subject: Hello Everyone, New Here.

Hi folks. I'm new here and thought I'd post a HELLO post and give you a brief history of my experience. First, I'm a 44 year old Police Sergeant from Metro Toronto Police Service. I'm been on the job for 23 years and a Sergeant for 17 of those years. I was one of the youngest Sergeants ever in that Service at the time and quite proud of that honour. I am of Irish background and still have my accent...lol...I use to stand at a crisp 6'8" 300lbs but the Stage 3 Chondrosarcoma has beaten me up badly. It was too much for my wife to handle and last spring she left me and we are divorced now but my 'ANGEL' of a daughter has stayed with me and I thank God for her everyday, more than I have normally through my life, and she is the most important thing to me now. I certainly would of not survived as long as I have without her. I know this deep in my heart and soul. Of course, she has always been and always will be daddy's little girl but that's not the reason that she has stayed with me. She certainly had a choice, at 17 at the time, to live where she chose to and she chose to live with me. Unfortunately, she has NO relationship with her mom and hasn't see or spoken to her since. I feel bad and guilty for that situation even though I know that it was not my fault in any way. I certainly didn't see the marriage breakdown coming at all but it is what it is and I have released the anger, sadness and hav grieved for it. I simply do not have time to spend on that when I have to spend every waking hour fighting for life. It has been very hard on me and as I pretty much pulled myself together, my dad died on June the 5th from Lung Cancer. Just when I felt that I was pulling it all back, BLAM! another hit with his passing. I am so very tired and I am in a great deal of pain, both physically, emotionally and spiritually. I must keep it together for her. She has been here for me, of every level, and has taken charge of her gentle giant daddy. Makes me tear up justs writing this now but we are all here for each other and sometimes getting things out in the open is a good way to help clear one's own 'baggage' and hopefully move on. I have tried very hard and I believe I'm doing ok, more or less, and things look up some days but when the bad days come....they're bad, very bad. I don't know what else to say other than I'm pleased to be a part of a great group of people. I've read 3/4 of all the posts and wish everyone all the best and I hope that at some point, maybe something I say to someone will help them through a rough patch on a particular subject. Well, as most of my days have it, I've grown weary and tired, plus, typing these emotional pages has drained me more than normal but I think I'm glad I told my story here. The Irish, in me, usually prevents me from opening up, and I'm surprized at myself for typing as much as I have and letting my personal laundry out flapping in the breeze. Thanks to all who took the time to read this and may God Bless all of us.
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~Tom

brainman · Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 1:02 pm Post subject: Re: Hello Everyone, New Here.

Hi Tom,

I am very sorry about your cancer... plus a divorce and then the death of your father Sad

. You are truly going through a lot. I hope being on this forum will help you.

I have never even heard of Chondrosarcoma but there are many cancers with which I am not familiar. How does it present itself? What kind of treatment have you or are you receiving?
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Site Administrator and long-term cancer survivor
1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
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ksplat · Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 6:52 am Post subject: Hello everyone, new here.

Dear Tom,

So sorry to hear about your health problems. Personal problems too, what a heavy burden for you.

Your story was inspiring...it also made me sad. Give your daughter a big hug from me, she is outstanding for her devotion & love. I'm sure she feels honoured to be able to devote herself to you. I was extremely proud last year to be able to devote my time to my dear, darling Dad when his health was so poor. He passed on 14 Feb 2007.

Blessings to you & your daughter. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.

I am glad you found this forum too. It's been such a blessing in my life since I stumbled upon it in Mar 07. So much support, information & love. I don't know where I would be without it.

Cheers, Aussie Angie.
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Brother diagnosed with GBMIV Feb 07
Treatment: Radiotherapy, Temodal, Gliadel Wafers, Dexamethasone, Keppra, Dilantin, Clexane
Went to our Heavenly Father after a 19mth battle,, 47 years young.
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