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Girlfriend might have cancer. Dilemma What is this ?

 
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 10:31 am    Post subject: Girlfriend might have cancer. Dilemma Reply with quote
Hi Guys,
I'll try to keep this short as possible. Basically I am going through this huge emotional rollercoaster(as most of you have gone/going through). I just graduated from college. My girlfriend who i have known for 2 years but actually started dating 2 months ago might have cervical cancer(I'm guessing->she didnt go in detail). She started getting sick early last week and had to go to the hospital because she was exhuasted and a horrible fever. The doctor's ran some tests on her (ie: cervical exams..etc) and they found a mass that was very rare. Now they are 80% sure that it is cancer but won't positively know until the surgery, which is Monday(Today).

I am freaking out right now because I haven't talked to her since Saturday. She said she won't have access to her phone in the hospital because all of her stuff gets put in the locker. Here is my delimma. I really like this girl(possible love) i have had many relationships in the past but none like with her and want to be there for her through this awful time in her life. I haven't officially met her parents yet(she lives at home) and so i dont want it to feel awkward. But at the same time i dont want to be kept in the dark...Is there a remedy for this? what would you guys do if my situation? Thanks in advance for all ur help, I'm so sorry if this is long!
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 4:25 pm    Post subject: Re: Girlfriend might have cancer. Dilemma Reply with quote
Life101, I am very sorry about your girlfriend's cancer. It does make it hard for you to see her when you have not met her parents. Plus, on the other topic, you said you do not even know what hospital she is in. Someone of that topic told you to send flowers. You need to wait on that. While she is in any type of intensive care unit, she will not be able to have flowers. Wait until she gets into a room for that.

I know it will feel awkward, but I would just go to her parent's home and introduce myself to them. Undoubtedly, they will have at least hear about you, right? Unless there are factors that I am not aware of, I think her parents will appreciate your gesture of concern for their daughter.

You and your girlfriend are in my thoughts and prayers.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 4:47 am    Post subject: Re: Girlfriend might have cancer. Dilemma Reply with quote
Life101,

I'm so sorry i wasn't here for you. Just saw your post now Embarassed sorry.

I think i posted a reply in Cancer pain?? Anyway I'm sorry for you worry, I did suggest seeing her parents and saying your a friend, and just would like to know how she is? where she is? can you send something or see her????

They would be happy that a friend is concerned for her, and wanting to know how she is.

Do you know anything about the level of cancer? type? what from? and what treatment?

Read my link if you want, Been there done that, sort of story.

You sound like a caring and loving person. Stay strong for her, and just be there.

Good Luck...Let me know how things go,.
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