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Gerard_irecfc90
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Hello. My name is Gerard Ryan. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2006. She has since went through her chemo and radio therapies and has been told that she is in remission. Since then a lot of things have happened.
When she was diagnosed she told me that the best thing i could do for her is get my GCSEs.. which i managed to do somehow passing them all.
A few weeks ago my uncle was found dead at the bottom of his stairs. He was not even 40 yet and it appears he had fell down them when he was drunk.
This is an extremely hard time for me as its stirring up feelings i had previously when my mum was diagnosed. I cant find any refuge in my friends as they simply dont understand and sometimes turn on me calling me a "Sympathy act" because i mention it so much to them.
Although my mum is in remission the fear of the illness is always there and these feelings just get a little too much for me sometimes. At the minute i feel really alone and isolated. Can anyone relate to this in any way?[/b] |
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 8:59 pm Post subject: Re: Remission... |
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Hi, Gerard, I am sorry you are having a difficult time - but congratulations on passing the exams. That is something to be proud of!
All of us who have cancer or have had cancer and are in remission have this constant fear with us at all times. It is not possible to say just forget your worries. But be assured that they are common, and that it really does no good to let them take hold. |
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brainman
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| Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:47 am Post subject: Re: Remission... |
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Gerald, I am very sorry about your mother's cancer and your uncle's death.
I can relate to your fears. I have a history of brain cancer so I have an MRI every 6-9 months. I have had so many that the test itself is no problem; I actually have to force myself not to fall asleep during the test of I might move my head. Nevertheless, as those tests approach, I start to wonder if my cancer is really gone. As Vee said, fear of recurrence is very common. Odds are very high that one of these days my cancer will recur.
You and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers.
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ksplat
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Location: Brisbane, Australia
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 5:03 pm Post subject: Re: Remission... |
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Hello Gerard
I too can sympathise with the feelings you are having. I do believe you need to talk about your concerns with another person & I would recommend you seek counselling of some sort. I would go to your family Dr for starters & tell him/her of your worries. If they can't help you I'm sure they will refer you to a suitable person.
You have come to us here on this forum & this is a huge step in the right direction. I hope we can help in some small way!
The worries you have are normal & we've all had them at some time or other. You are grieving for your Uncle as well as the worry with your Mum's illness recurring. This is too big a burden for your shoulders alone.
I pray you will find refuge once you seek out a counsellor to talk to.
Don't hesitate to "offload" here on this forum either, as we are a fantastic community, willing to offer support, advice & comfort & love wherever we can.
May I also suggest you post your Mother's story on the BREAST CANCER thread here & you are certain to receive support & information from other breast cancer survivors.
My prayers & thoughts are with you.
Cheers, Aussie Angie.
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