I dont think my mom is being truthful

windrider86 · New User Joined: 05 May 2008 Posts: 4

My mom told me awhile back that she and her doctor found a lump n her breast and not to owrry because it was very very small and they were just going to take it out and that it was thr kind that wouldnt spread. Well, she had it taken out and then started all the other treatments.
After going thru enough chemo where she lost all of her hair and some of her teeth ( i wanna say she was on a pretty serious regime) and then she was on 6 weeks if radiation on adaily basis and now they have her on some type of hormone treatment.
It sunds to me like it is much more serious than she is letting on. I dont know enough about breat cancer to know is this is a normal treatment. I wish I had more to tell you but she isnt letting on anything.
Do I have cause to be more worried? Is going thru chemo, radiation and hormone treatments a normal thing for someone who had a tiny lump?
Wouldnt the hormones be something that would be given to someone who had a mastectomy?
Any insight would be so very much appreciated.

brainman

windrider86, I am very sorry about your mother's cancer. Unfortunately, I have to agree with you; it does sound like she has an aggressive form of breast cancer. Whether she is not telling you the whole story or does not have the whole story herself I do not know. Most women do not undergo all of that treatment unless there is at least a chance that it has metastasized. Usually, a lumpectomy is enough for a small cancer.

I am sure that others will reply with there own, more informed, replies. Keep us informed.

You and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers.
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windrider86 · New User Joined: 05 May 2008 Posts: 4

That was my thoughts and my worst fears. Now I just dont know what to do as she tells me she is fine and of course I want to be there for her.

brainman

Not knowing your personality, your mother's personality, and your relationship to your mother, you have two options as I see it:

1. Continue to live as you are... not really knowing but suspecting that it is worse than your mother is saying it is. Sometimes this is the best option especially if you are the type that can accept the worse and just live one day at a time thankful for every opportunity to be with your mother.

2. Confront your mother. By "confront" I mean to name the things you can actually see and not the things you only suspect. Tell her that her hair loss and treatments make you worry that it might be worse than she thought (not making any judgment about whether or not she is telling the whole truth). This is the option that is the hardest because you have to be very sensitive to her right to have secrets and you have to be ready for her to become angry. You also need to be prepared for her to break down emotionally. If this happens, she might actually have a sense of relief that she is no longer having to carry this secret by herself.

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windrider86 · New User Joined: 05 May 2008 Posts: 4

thank you. My mom has always been very strong and very confident. Up until a few years ago our relationship had very strained but we both have been working at it very hard to make it better. And I beleive we have.
I guess I have been scared to confront her as I am even more afraid of what her answer might be.
My lil sister is going to visit her this wekend. ( We all live in diferent states) and she is going to try and find out more

LizNDale

Windrider,

I just came upon this thread, I really feel for you, and what you're going through.

How are you, how is your mom, do you have an update you can share?

LizNdale
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windrider86 · New User Joined: 05 May 2008 Posts: 4

Thank you so much for asking. I havent seen my mom now in a couple of months. She told me a few weeks ago that she had started on some sort of hormone treatment and was making her so sick that she would throw up in her sleep.
Yesterday she told told me she was feeling better and getting adjusted to the pills. I hope so. It's so hard when you live so far away from someone who is ill and well, it just leaves you feeling very helpless.

In

windrider86,

It must be hard for you, but your doing all that you can. You are giving strength and support- though afar- sometimes that is better.

I'm happy to hear that the tablets are now starting to help alittle and settling down.
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