MY MOM HAS STAGE 4 PANCREATIC CANCER

ANGEL'S WINGS

[quote="Lana8"]I am so sorry to here about your mom. I lost my sister on 6-11-05 due to lung cancer. You and your family are in my prayers. A web site that may help is groww.org It has really helped me when I need to talk. This site has also been very helpful. I have read much new information that I had no idea about. God be with you and your family.
Lana[/quote]

ANGEL'S WINGS · Posted: Mon Sep 05, 2005 11:16 am Post subject: Lost Mother on July 25, 2005

I'm sorry to hear about loosing your sister and mother. I lost my mother to pancreatic cancer on 07/25/05. She was 83 years old. The last few months especially the last 5 weeks were terrible. I couldn't stand seeing her like that anymore. It was so heartbreaking to see what she was going through. She had been in and out of the hospital 3 times during the end of life. She went in June 13th and after that never walked or ate right again. She complained of stomach pain and was put on pain meds. She lost her appetite and gradually got weaker. She tried to eat but said she couldn't because she felt full. At times she would force herself to eat. I did not realize what was really happening and would tell her to eat, so she would try too for me and would let me feed her small amounts until she felt full. I wanted her to live more then anything, but the last few weeks of her life, I realized it was a loosing battle. I did not give up though, I tried natural herbs and everything I could find. She developed pnumoena and the doctor's did not want to help her. I fought with the doctor's and family and made them give her breathing treatments and antibotics....while they wanted "care and comfort". Finally they listened to me and started helping her but by then it was too late. I was sleeping at the hospital the last 2 weeks. I thank God that my husband and children were understanding, since I was by her side day and night. She lingered on for almost 2 weeks, then the hospital wanted her out. While my siblings were leaning towards transitional care unit, I took her home, she lived with me, so I wanted her home, thinking I could get her better. I look back now and see that deep down I knew she was going to die one day, I just did not want her too and felt that as long as she had her will to live I was fighting for her. She fought right to the end but just couldn't fight anymore. Her last morning alive she told me she was going to die and I did not want to hear it, I just shook my head NO, she said it again and I started to cry, I told her I did not want her to leave me. She said a few things about my brother and sister and then slept all day. I called my brother and sister over. Later that night she started breathing noisy, we did not know why, so we called the hospice nurse. She came to the house and said she did not know what was wrong with her and told us to increase Morphine. I did not understand why! I hated giving her Morphine and Ativan because I felt like I was killing her. I HATE HOSPICE! Anyway the nurse left, then around 1 am, my mother started gasping for breath, I knew in my heart I was loosing her, I held her, told her it was ok to go with my father and grandmother and told her I loved her. She looked as though she was gone when all of a sudden she opened her eyes and looked at me. She just stared at me, then she took a few more small breaths and died. The nurse came back to pronounce her. I told her how my mom opened her eyes, I felt like she was doing it as if to say "help me I can't breath" but the nurse told me "no", that was my mom's way of saying goodbye to me! I sat with my mom until the undertakers took her away. I know she will always be with me...I felt so peaceful after she died and the house felt so warm. When I think of how my mother managed to find the strength to look at me during her last few minutes, that makes me so proud of her and happy that she thought of me and was able to do that. My mother was the only parent I had left, she was my mother, sister and friend! I miss her dearly, things have changed, but I know in my heart that my mom knew how much I loved her and how I stood by her and fought for her. I had her for 47 years of my life and I have no regrets! I know that my mother would not want me to be sick over loosing her, she would want me to be happy and go on living my life, until one day we'll meet again! To my dear mother who I miss and love with all my heart....I have great memories of life with you that will always be with me and they will live forever! Although your gone a part of you will always be with me! I LOVE YOU...REST IN PEACE MOM!

Take care of those you love, because you never know when one day they will be gone! I know the heartache you all feel....my sympathy goes out to you all!

ANGEL'S WINGS

[quote="treible"]I just lost my mom to pancreatic cancer on 9-1-05. Her funeral was yesterday, and I miss her so much. My mom had cancer for almost two years, and she went through so much pain. The last 2 months was the worst. I hated to see her in that shape. She couldn't even get up at the end. I sit here and think, how do I get over this? I feel so empty now. I still don't believe she's gone. It's just hard to accept. My prayers are with anyone having to go through this. Please keep me and my family in your prayers.[/quote]

ANGEL'S WINGS · Posted: Mon Sep 05, 2005 11:23 am Post subject: HOW IS YOUR MOM DOING?

[quote="LUCKYU226"]HHI MY MOM HAS STAGE 4 PANCREATIC CANCER SHE HAS BEEN TAKING THE CHEMO MEDICATION CALLED GEMCITABINE BUT IT'S NOT WORKING. SO GOD WILLING SHE WILL HAVE TO TAKE A NEW MEDICATION IM PRAYING THAT THIS WORKS FOR HER. :cry:[/quote]

nanakelly · New User Joined: 14 Nov 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Elyria OH

I am so sorry to hear of all of the losses of your loved ones. It is heartbreaking. We just got the diagnosis of a biopsy done on my 77 yr old mom. It is stage 4 pancreatic cancer. She has been so sick since July. The doctors removed her gallbladder in July, and even after the pain from the surgery was gone, the original pain in her abdomen was still there. The doctors were trying to treat her for reflux disease to constipation to a possible hernia all through Aug, Sept & Oct. They did a CT scan in July and didn't do another one til Oct 31, '05 & that's when they found a large mass on her pancreas & spots on her liver. She had so many of the symptoms I've seen listed in these posts (pain in abdomen, back, no appetite, feelings of being full after a couple bites of food, feeling pain & nausea after eating). The doctors just kept saying to get her Ensure or Boost drinks or puddings. Easy for them to say! If you can't eat food or drink regular liquids, what difference does it make if it's Ensure or Boost. That doesn't change the fact that she can't eat or drink. I'm sorry, but I am hurting so bad because I love my mom with all my heart and it's been so hard to see her suffer this long and at the same time, I am angry wondering if it may have made a difference if the doctors had done more tests sooner, maybe her prognosis would be better. She doesn't know yet that it is cancer. My sister & I are trying to decide whether or not to tell her. She's on Duragesic pain patches & ativan, so she sleeps alot and doesn't remember most of the things we tell her from one minute to the next.
To make matters worse, today is when we got the news, and 2 years ago today, my oldest sister passed away at 52 yrs. Crying or Very sad

We have always been a close family and I cherish my relationship with my mom and can't imagine life without her, but unfortunately, I know that's going to happen.
I don't want to sound rude when I say that it's comforting to know I'm not alone. I was just online looking up info on this cancer and ran across this site. I can see from just the few posts I've read, that there are alot of other people out there that know just how I'm feeling right now.
I'll include all of you in my prayers.

systamatics · New User Joined: 24 Nov 2007 Posts: 6

[quote="LUCKYU226"]HHI MY MOM HAS STAGE 4 PANCREATIC CANCER SHE HAS BEEN TAKING THE CHEMO MEDICATION CALLED GEMCITABINE BUT IT'S NOT WORKING. SO GOD WILLING SHE WILL HAVE TO TAKE A NEW MEDICATION IM PRAYING THAT THIS WORKS FOR HER. Crying or Very sad

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my mom the same now :S , wat will happen , i did some research , its seems uncurable :S :S Sad

, is there any chance??! ANY CHANCE!!

JKB · New User Joined: 23 Nov 2007 Posts: 5

There is a difference between hope and expectations.

Even with an incurable disease there is always hope. But learning to hope for the smaller things are a matter of training. Somtimes you just have to hope tomorrow is better than today, and often that can give you a little strength.

It sounds corny, but it keeps me going.

I hope you and your mother has some good times together, and I hope that there will be alot of them.

brainman

systamatics, I am very sorry about your mother's cancer. Unfortunately, the prognosis is not good for stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer. Notice that the last person to post to this topic did it over 2 years ago. I am not sure if any of the previous members are even still with this community.

One of our long-term survivor died just a while back. He survived for over two years but had aggressive chemotherapy for most of that time. You can look up freeio's story by clicking on the following link:

http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=6939

His blog is quite good too and contains all of his story in one place.

You and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers.
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