when its your mother

jplife · New User Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 7

Wow what is a grown man suppose to feel when he finds out his mother has a short time to live.2 weeks ago they found out she had colon cancer after surgery.Nothing they can do.She is a great person and a lot of faith.

mssue · Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 7:57 am Post subject: Re: When it's your Mother

I'm so sorry to hear about Your Mother,it's a difficult thing to deal with.You are probably going to feel alot of different emotions Crying or Very sad

but while You still can spend as much time with her as possible - You'll be glad You did.My Mother died from cancer too,when they found it -it was too far gone to do anything about it.Whether You are a man ,woman or child it is a very in depth situation to withstand-sounds like Your Mother is a very strong person, her Faith probably helps keep her there.Deep down inside though she too is probably scared.Doctors can say what they may but only the Lord knows how much time we have.He doesn't call us home until our work here is done. My thoughts and prayers are with You and Your Family.Do what You feel is right and good in Your own heart-God will do the rest.
I don't know if I have found the right words or not.But I hope You find comfort for Your heart.
((HUGS))
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Sue
Age-44
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Infilterating Ductal Carcinoma
Modified Radical Mastectomy/Left-side
4 Rounds of A/C-completed 1/2004

jplife · New User Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 7

Thanks for that encouragement.My Mother is at her home right now,but is not doing all that great.she had a rough day today,but always says she is doing fine.We are going up on monday to see her

MarkS · Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 11:48 pm Post subject: Re: when its your mother

How are you supposed to feel? What ever you're feeling is how you're supposed to feel.
I can tell you how I felt 4 years ago when I lost my mother to cancer. She was also a strong woman with deep faith.
I felt, at different times, angry, sad and scared. Mostly though, I just felt like I wanted to do my best to make her last days as comfortable as I possibly could for her, and I wanted her, above everything else, to know that I loved her.
When she went into the hospital my sister and brother and I took shifts so at least one of us was always with her, 24 hours a day for just over 2 weeks, and we were all there with her the night she died.
It was hard at times, hard to watch, hard to accept, but I'll tell you something, I'll never regret doing it. I walked with her and held her hand right up to death's door and I watched her cross over. When I had to let her go it was ok - sad but ok.
Actually, today I think about that and I feel honored that I was able to be there and share that last moment with her.
I don't know if you are in a position to do that. Your job, finances or geographic location may not make that possible. I think the most important thing though is for you to know that she knows that you love her, and the only way she can know that is if you tell her.
I'm really sorry you have to go through this but you'll be ok, trust me on that. You'll be ok.

jplife · New User Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 7

Thanks Marks
I do live in a different town then my mother.My sister do look out for my mother well.When I was down there yesterday,she look like a lot of weight is being lost.She drinks a lot of water,and some kind of protein.
She can't keep any thing solid down.I don't know if this normal or not.
She is being injected with medicine to help from throwinng up.She still is pretty strong but sleeps a lot.I have let my mother know she is loved and she still shares that great love that she has.I pray that I will be able to be there when she on her last days,

MarkS · Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 11:56 am Post subject: Re: when its your mother

[quote="jplife"] I pray that I will be able to be there when she on her last days,[/quote]

I'll pray for that too.

jplife · New User Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 7

My mother is now back in hospital.She is on IV and has a tube going down her nose,They might be putting a bag on her tomorrow.Just doesn't sound good.But I guess this is all part of the stages.Right?

MarkS · Posted: Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:31 pm Post subject: Re: when its your mother

I'm sorry JP. It's so hard to watch people you love suffering.
How are you doing?

jplife · New User Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 7

Sorry I haven't got back to you,that have supported me in the past.
My Mother pass on to be with the Lord, Nov 20/05.
Thanks again

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