Dreams...

RickyCrawfish · Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 3:09 am Post subject: Dreams...

Hey, I was thinking about a dream that I had shortly after my dad passed away. I dreamt that I was at work. On a balcony outside a building that was up pretty high. I was looking all around, because I was high up. But then I see my dad walking towards me on the roof of the building. And he comes up to me with a shaky sort of voice (Because he is near tears) And said that he loves me. And that he has to go. Then I said I loved him. Then he turns his back to me. And I think he started crying when he turned his back to me. And as he was walking away he said "I have to go now... Bye..." and I could sort of hear him slightly sob as he walked away on the roof till he was out of sight.
I'm very glad I had that dream. And it chokes me up a bit when I think about it. I also dont know how to take it... But has anyone else had any sort of dream about a loved one that passed away? If so would you mind sharing? Thanks.

amakis · Regular Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 39

No, I have not had those dreams yet because my father is still alive. However, he does have terminal cancer and may die within the next 6 months or so. I'm responding to your message because you have given me hope that I too will dream about my father. When he's gone, I know it's going to be extremely difficult and I know that I am going to cling to any sign of him. I am hoping to dream of him often, and it eases my pain some to know that other people do, so maybe it will happen for me too.

brainman · Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 12:41 pm Post subject: Re: Dreams...

My dreams have really been disrupted. I used to have very vivid dreams. However, since 1992 when I was placed on anti-seizure medication, I hardly dream. I sleep soundly but have no memory of having had any dreams when I awaken. I miss the ability to dream. Some of my greatest insight into myself and into my relationships came about through my dreams. That is just another thing that cancer has taken away from me.
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mssue · Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 2:01 pm Post subject: RE;DREAMS

Hi Ricky,
I was sorta suprised to see such a post,but glad to see I'm not the only one.My Mother died from ovarian cancer,I was pregnant with my last child(waited 10 yrs to have another)when all of the sudden my Mother got sick went to the hospital and she died that morning.I was calling her to let her know I had dialated 4 cm and could have the baby anytime.It was so tramatic,she passed 2 days before Thanksgiving and 3 wks before my daughter was born.I was in no condition to travel,me in NC and her in Miss.I missed her funeral Crying or Very sad

so I don't know if that is why I felt like she hadn't left me,any way in my dream I was on the front porch and she was walking down the street so I ran to catch up with her and we walked a little ways,I don't remember any real conversation it was more like alot of emotions conversing between us-the next thing I know she was leaving -I didn't want her to go- I started crying and couldn't stop I felt totally empty inside.It was so real I actually woke my husband because as I was waking I really was crying and couldn't stop-needless to say there was no rest in my house that night.I really have always thought she stayed with me until she knew I was going to be okay.The timing is strange though because my Daughter is now 14 and I had that dream about seven years ago,not long after I remarried.
I used to dream all of the time and it's quite frightening to me when I walk in a place and feel like I've already been there,or experienced a situation already and know what is going to happen next. Too bad I can't control it or pick and choose,maybe I'd win the lottery LOL.
Since they put me on Amitryptilin(sp) I don't dream much anymore-just once in awhile-but the dream of my Mother-I'll always have with me, for to me it is the sweetest comforting memory I could ever ask for .
Keep Your dreams along with Your faith-if You remember in the Bible they speak of the things that come in dreams-what a wonderful thing.

God Bless You!
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missumom · Experienced user Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 65

Hi,

My mom passed away on Monday, October 17, 2005 at 8:30 in the evening.

Early that morning, around 4 a.m., I dreamt of her. I didn't see her, but I heard her voice. She said to me, "Come now...I'm going." I remember waking up after this dream. I also woke up my husband because I wanted to tell him about my dream just in case I fall back asleep and forget about it. He told me that I should go to the hospital, but I didn't. I thought it was one of those dreams where the meaning is the exact opposite. That's what I chose to believe. I chose to believe that she was getting better and I went to work. When I got to work at 9 a.m., I didn't even have a chance to take off my coat when my phone rang. It was my sister telling me that mom's doctor said she was going soon, and to call the family to come to the hospital.

I see myself as a very obedient person. I always did what my parents told me to do. I can kick myself for not listening to her that time, but we were all by her side when she left.

I have been reciting the rosary every night since my mom passed away, asking God to take care of her. I remember, one night I was feeling disturbed because I wanted some reassurance that my mom was not in purgatory (or hell), and I wanted to know if she was with her parents and her sister. As I prayed the rosary, I asked God to let me know that my mom was okay. That night, I dreamt of her. I saw her dressed in the outfit that she wore on my wedding day. She looked beautiful, younger and happy (there was a calmness about her). I asked her if she was ok and she told me, 'yeah, I'm okay.' I asked her if she was with her parents and sister and she replied, 'I'm with everybody.' Then she said, 'I have to go..bye'.

This dream settled me. My mom is in heaven with all her loved ones that have also passed away and she's having a great time. She seemed busy, almost like I was taking her away from a party (hahaha). I know she's happy, but I still miss her, but that's okay.

That was actually the last dream I had of my mom. I rarely dream. I guess I'm not a dreamer, but it's almost like this is her way of communicating with me. I'm sure they miss us too, and I think they have the ability to visit us now and then by way of scents (flowers/candles) and that obvious gentle cool breeze to let us know they're around us.

It doesn't take away the pain and sometimes, I still can't believe she's really gone, but we have to go on living. I look at death so differently now. I used to fear it, but when God calls us to heaven (and that's where we'll all end up someday), it'll be a happy reunion...like that song 'One Sweet Day' (by Mariah Carey).

God bless and take care everyone!

RickyCrawfish · Posted: Sat Mar 04, 2006 7:08 am Post subject: Re: Dreams...

[quote="missumom"]Hi,
I look at death so differently now. I used to fear it, but when God calls us to heaven (and that's where we'll all end up someday), it'll be a happy reunion...like that song 'One Sweet Day' (by Mariah Carey).

God bless and take care everyone![/quote]

You know, I'm the same way now. I used to be terrified by the thought of death. But now I know if I do die... My dad surely wouldnt let me be alone as I go.. Cause my dad Rocked Cool

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