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leanne
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 Posted: Wed Oct 15, 2008 1:54 pm Post subject: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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hello everyone, my name is leanne and im 30 years old.
i found out in april that my dad has lung cancer, he is only 48.
i have no brothers or sisters, so its just me mum and dad. as the months have gone by, i think iv'e coped very well, i made myself, because i dont want to let him down, and i never let him see me upset, i have a 6 year old son, and a great husband who has been very good.
3 weeks ago my dad had a scan and it showed that his cancer has spread to his bones and liver, the hospital arn't giving him anymore chemo becaues theres no point, he has had 3 lots of radio.
after we found that out, he went very poorly, he had a blood test which showed his bones were leaking calcium into his blood, so he was in hospital again.
he is now back home, but very ill, he sleeps all the time, and has to be on a drip, his nurse comes every day which is good.
my mum is so strong in front of him, i think she is amazing. they said it would be unlikely that he will be here for xmas.
i just wanted to share my story, because i need someone to listen who understands, my friends try but cant, and just moan at me for being moody, but i cant help it, i dont mean to be.
thankyou for letting me get this out
leanne xx |
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maryaz
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| Posted: Wed Oct 15, 2008 11:55 pm Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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Leanne, I am so sorry that you and your Mom are having to go thru this. Your Dad is so young. I have a severe illness of COPD but it was my husband who got the cancer this year. In comparing, there is none, as I don't think there could be a disease worse than Cancer. All the anxiety and ups and downs. Very hard on patient and the loved ones caring for them.
It is okay to have feelings. It is part of who we are. If your Dad would not like to see you sad all the time, try to keep some positive thoughts and be strong. You have my deepest sympathy having given this diagnosis. I will have you and family in my thoughts and prayers. Others should be by with some encouraging words.
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pbj11
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| Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 9:16 am Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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Leanne,
Oh dear --- I'm very sorry to hear about this for such a young man. You and your family must be beside yourselves with fear for him. My daughter could have written your last paragraph. Don't feel bad -- the other's around you won't understand unless they've experienced something like this themselves. My daughter had lots of problems with this issue, especially after her father passed. Moody! Yes, she was told that by friends also. It's hard to accept that people so close to you don't "get it," but they don't. They still love you, but don't understand the personality changes that happen when you are living a life on the edge with knowing someone you love so dearly isn't going to make it.
I sincerely hope they keep your Dad comfortable and that you have more time to make memories together. I'm glad you have a good husband and son to help you keep one foot in the real world. You'll find out later how important they will become in coping. Cry when you need to and don't bottle up those emotions. It sounds like you've done a great job so far in being strong for your Dad.
Keep in touch and feel free to express anything you need to here. WE understand. This IS the place where people do "get it."
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leanne
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| Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 2:59 pm Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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thankyou, so much for your kind words, its nice to have people that understand
thanks
leanne x |
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sgodshall
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 8:43 pm Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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Leanne
So sorry you have had to join this roller coaster. Enjoy the good moments and cry when you need to. As PBJ once suggested to me - it's okay to throw a tantrum or throw something to get it out. This forum is here 24 hours a day - so welcome anytime to vent or rejoice over the little things that are SO big to us. (He ate a whole SLICE of pizza - is a wonderful example of the "Little" things.
In His Service,
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leanne
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| Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:09 am Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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went to see my dad yesterday, its not looking good, the nurse was there giving my mum books on how to cope with a death, she said my dads hands and feet are cold which is not a good sign, so i just dont know how long he has left, i just cant belive it
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Gillette
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Darling, sit with him, be with him, and laugh around him if you can. His love will fill you, and be with you always. Hold your mother close, and remember the last time he did something and neither one of you dared laugh: and live.
My husband is 51, stage 4 lungs to brain, had chemo, now doing the radiation, and been given 1-2 years- best case. I have at 28 year old daughter, and a 5 year old grandson, and an 18 year old son at home.
You must love and laugh, and weep as you all feel the need to do. Take any and all assistance offered to you, by anyone who can help you through this time. That is what I am learning to do now, and why I joined this. God be with you...
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At 51, 4/08 dx. NSCLC st. 4. mets to brain in 2 places: 5/08-8/08 carbol/taxol 5 treatments: 10/08 WBR for 14 daily treatments, had 6 fine coned radiation treatments for the 2 known specific brain tumors. Awaiting testing Dec2.
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azsun
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| Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 8:55 pm Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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Leanne,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I read your story and i felt like was I reading my own, minus the strong mother (mine has become a wrech and I've had to take her to hospital for stress related problems, not a good mix with diabetes and thyroid disorder).
This whole disease is just not fair to them. Love him while he is here. Something I'm trying to do while hiding my anger about it all...
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brainman
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leanne
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| Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 7:18 am Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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hi everyone this is leannes husband
im sorry to infrom you all that leannes father lost his 6 month fight with lung cancer on sunday morning. leanne asked me to thank everybody ofr your messages of support, it ment a lot to her.
thanks again jon |
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pbj11
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| Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 7:45 am Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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Leanne and Jon,
I'm so very sorry to read this news. You have my deepest sympathy. Such a cruel loss at so young of an age. May God be with your family at this time.
Hugs,
PBJ
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Gillette
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| Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 8:16 am Post subject: Prayers |
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I am so saddened by this news, and pray for you all. It is a cruel thing, this cancer we are all battling one way or another. We/I will still be here- to talk, to cry  Accept my LOVE
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Loving Ben:
At 51, 4/08 dx. NSCLC st. 4. mets to brain in 2 places: 5/08-8/08 carbol/taxol 5 treatments: 10/08 WBR for 14 daily treatments, had 6 fine coned radiation treatments for the 2 known specific brain tumors. Awaiting testing Dec2.
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Tera
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| Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 4:12 pm Post subject: Re: my dad has lung cacer he is 48 |
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| I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please let Leanne know she, you, and your families are in my prayers. Cancer is a very difficult journey to go on with a loved one. May God bring peace and healing. |
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. It is terrible that he is so sick so young. You and your father are in my thoughts and prayers.
