23 year old daughter here, Mom is dying

Krost418 · New User Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 5 Location: New Jersey

My Mother is dying right in front of me and I have to be strong. I am so worried that when the doctor says "there is nothing left to do" (which might be this week) I wont be able to be strong anymore. This has been a 11 year battle and its now the end. I hope that this forum can be a good place for me to talk with other people in this situation. My Mother has Breast Cancer and just turned 50 last week.
thanks for listening

07suby · New User Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

Sorry about your mom. I am 24 and my mom has been fighting cancer since 2000 but it has gotten significantly worse in the past 2 years after it spread to the liver. It's really hard but all you can do is be there for your mom and try to stay strong.

jfkbluecircle

Hi, Krost418:
I am so sorry for the suffering you are going through. It seems you and your family have had a long, hard road. I know you feel the need to be strong, but please, don't let that get in the way of you sharing anything and everything you need to with your mom. She knows you are suffering, too, and nothing is going to make that any easier. But, you can be sure to have said everything you want to, shown her the love and meaning she has given you and your life and may find some comfort in that.

I wish my words over cyberspace could bring you some peace.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jessica

Krost418 · New User Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 5 Location: New Jersey

Suby-yeah thats what is going to kill my mother is that the cancer spread to her liver....but it also spread to the brain, bone, and lungs. but the liver is the worst. thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers. everyone may be strangers here but I feel closer to you guys than anyone else right now.

dwright · New User Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 8

Krost418 - I am sorry about your mother and what your having to deal with. All I know to say is just love her and be with her all you can right now. Take care of yourself too.

Cisco's Daughter · Regular Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 19

Krost418, my thoughts and prayers are with you..be strong. That's all we can do. I cry when I'm alone, but keep it together when I'm with my dad. I'll have my time to share my grief when the time comes. God Bless.

brainman

Krost, I have been reading your posts about your mother but not responding until now because you have received such warm and caring replies from other member of this community. But I do want to tell you how sorry I am that your dear mother is suffering so much. My mother did literally die in front of me so I can definitely sympathize with you! I knew she was dying long before anyone else in the family realized what was really happening. However, I had to constantly remind myself: "Jim, she is alive now! What do you want to do with this time you still have with her?" Even when all I could do was hold her hand and talk to her without having any response, that is what I did. I know of people who share their stories on this Cancer Forums about singing to their loved ones as they slowly died.

Krost, your mother is still alive now! What do you want to do with this gift of time you still have with her?

I will be keeping you and your mother in my thoughts and in my prayers.
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fatherson · Regular Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Nottingham

I am sorry you are going through this, there is nothing one can truly say or do. You seem a very strong person, it takes a strong person to have the initative to come on here and share their experience.
I think you will find great comfort on these boards, as i have.
I wish you well for the future, please come back when you find the strength to do so...your so young.... My thoughts are with you.x
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