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    33 years old, stage 2a uterine cancer, still want kids

    Hi. I'm 33 and still want to have kids so I do not want a hysterectomy. Are there other options to cure this cancer at Stage 2a so that I will have a chance to have a baby in the future? Also, what kinds of treatments are there other than surgery? I'm deadly afraid of going under the knife. I guess the thing I'm worried about most is not being about to have kids. I really want to have kids one day soon. I want to get a second opinion but just can't wait and want to find out from others what their experiences have been. I really don't want to have a hysterectomy. I'm just so worried and have high anxiety right now. I know my health is more important than having a baby but it's been something so important for the past year, so finding this out is killing me.

    Hopefully someone can help.

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    You are not alone. The most important thing is your health. I know it's hard to have to think of not having little ones of your own, but you have to ask yourself what if you bring this wonderful child in this world, and you are not here to watch them grow. Our type of cancer is like a iceberg..sometimes it's worse under the surface. Please just take some time to really think it over....I can tell you are very brave. We are the same age....mine is grade 1, we were going to start right away with the megace as we have always wanted little ones too. They did an MRI of my pelvis and found something they could not explain. The tune has changed...the doctor has called for a hysterectrival omy and is comfortable with egg retrival. We have a meeting with the reproductive specialist, and then we are going to another ono. for a second opinion. Try to let all this sink in, cry....yell....pray and get as many hugs as you can...You don't have to have it all together. As far as adoption, just remember, you do not need a genetic link to be a Mama...there are things we can pass on to these children that reflect us as parents such as morals, a strong sense of family, and strength. Now I cannot comment on the hysterectomy because we have not scheduled it yet, but please just take this one day at a time for your poor sanity's sake. PM anytime, you are goi.g to get through it, and I will be praying for you. *HUGS*
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    Hi Yube, I was diagnosed on April 11th this year with endometrial cancer stage 1. I went for 4 opinions before making my final decision. I'm 37 and I haven't had children yet. I chose to have a hysterectomy as it was the only real solution for me. After having the hysterectomy the pathology report came back that the cancer was worse then originally diagnosed...stage 2. I'm sure you've been told, like I was that there is no real way to tell if the cancer has spread until they're actually looking inside you and test lymph nodes, etc. I'm now in the stages of grieving at not being able to carry a child. It's hard, I'm not going to lie. I lost a dream that day. Thankfully they were able to save my ovaries, so I can still have a bioloagical child through IVF and a surrogate.
    I've found out that life plays funny tricks...first you're told you have cancer, then you lose the dream to have a child. Then you're faced with the expense of trying to have a child - something that comes free to most everyone else. It's almost as if you feel like you're being punished for having cancer. As you can tell I'm still in the angry/mourning part. If you have any questions (because I'm sure you feel alone sometimes), I'd be happy to help. One thing you'll learn is you will learn a lot about something you never knew about the day before you were diagnosed! Good luck!
    Diagnosed endometrial adenocarcinoma 4/11/2012 Grade 2
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    BTW - I had surgery with the DaVinci robot and it wasn't bad at all! I was up and walking later that day. Sore, tired and in a little pain for about a week to two weeks. It's been 8 weeks since my surgery and I feel great! So don't be afraid to go 'under the knife', it's not bad - and believe me, I'm a wimp
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    How are you, Yube12? I hope that your anxiety has somehow eased. I have also been diagnosed with ENDOMETRIAL CANCER GRADE 1. I don't know what stage yet as I haven't had MRI. I am scheduled to have it next Sunday. My family and I keep praying that the tumor hasn't penetrated the endometrium wall yet. Like you, I also want to have a child/children in the future. It hurts when my husband tells me that "having a baby is not important." I think it is... and my heart aches at the mere thought of not being able to conceive... but I have done a lot of research and the pieces of advise I have read in cancer forums have given me hope. If hysterectomy is the only way to get rid of our cancer, we can ask our gyne-onco if we can keep our ovaries. If that's possible, we can have our own child through a surrogate mother. If we really have to undergo total hysterectomy, which means that our ovaries will also be taken out, they can retrieve our eggs and have embyo transfer through a surrogate mother, too. Please... don't lose hope. Be strong. I also cry sometimes, and worry, but I try to be strong and keep a positive mind for the sake of my loved ones who don't want to see me forlorn. God bless you. I hope you could give me updates regarding your condition. I want to pray for you.

    Quote Originally Posted by yube12 View Post
    Hi. I'm 33 and still want to have kids so I do not want a hysterectomy. Are there other options to cure this cancer at Stage 2a so that I will have a chance to have a baby in the future? Also, what kinds of treatments are there other than surgery? I'm deadly afraid of going under the knife. I guess the thing I'm worried about most is not being about to have kids. I really want to have kids one day soon. I want to get a second opinion but just can't wait and want to find out from others what their experiences have been. I really don't want to have a hysterectomy. I'm just so worried and have high anxiety right now. I know my health is more important than having a baby but it's been something so important for the past year, so finding this out is killing me.

    Hopefully someone can help.

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    Thank you for sharing your story. We are the same age, and it sounds like in similar situations. I do not yet know the stage of my cancer. I will find that out on Wednesday. My husband and I are struggling with the reality that we may not be able to have a biological child. The whole situation is painful. I pray that you have answers soon and that they are able to treat your cancer easily. I think that sometimes not having the information is the hardest part.

    I wish you all the best and I am here if I can provide any support to you.
    Erika
    I am a 33 year old married woman with no children. My husband and I were being treated for fertility issues. After a D and C to remove polyps and a thickened uterine lining, I was called and told that the tissue removed was cancerous.

    October 26: D and C
    October 29: Cancer diagnosis
    November 14: MRI
    November 21: Results with oncologist

    I have started writing a blog to capture my journey at http://www.followingerika.blogspot.com

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    Thank you jstagrl your comments about the davinci hysterectomy was really helpful to me if I have to go down that route. I was concerned at recovery time an now I can see it can be much shorter.

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    get eggs harvested

    If it is at all an option, get your eggs harvested before any hysterectomy. No matter what grade/stage they say it is, get the eggs done first. I supposedly had stage 1, grade A, small contained tumor (after biopsies, hysteroscopy and two MRIs) - so fertility doc suggested I wait till after I heal from surgery to have eggs harvested. Now I have no option, because it was a tumor that had grown my uterus to the size of a six month pregnancy, was outside of the wall, and meant they took everything. So, if you have the option to have eggs harvested and embryos frozen before a hys, do it. You can't go back once you've gone under the knife.

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    I have stage 1, taking Megace, so far it works, going for biopsy this week. Don't panick, hopefully it is stage 2 and you can keep ovaries, talk to oncologist before surgery. Don't panik and have hope! You are in my prayers!

 
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