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    People Who Fake having Pancreatic Cancer

    Hi Folks,

    In the last little while we have a couple of threads about people who have been the victim of this terrible hoax. I had some spare time today and looked googled 'People who fake cancer'. It was a really interesting read. Some do it for money - but others do it for attention.

    Luckily people who are doing it for the money are starting to get charged.

    How would you feel it this hoax was played on you?

    Queensville
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    July 22 2011 Hubby (64) Diagnosed PanCan. Sept2011- Feb 2012: Abraxane/Gemcitabine. Feb-May 2012:Gemcitabine only. June-Sept 2012 5FU. Sept 4-no more chemo - Just living life. Multiple stents. Jan 2013/18 month mark. Mets everywhere. Looking for a bumper sticker that says 'Stay at safe distance - Driver suffering caregiver burnout'. Hospice Thurs Feb 28 2013. March 12 2013 he went off to his new adventure where we will one day meet again. It was 20 months from date of diagnosis until now.

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    Whether for money or for attention I believe that they also have serious self image and self esteem issues that are deeply rooted. It's not an excuse, but for some people, any attention....even negative attention is better than no attention at all. This is the logical and empathetic side of me talking here.

    On the other hand...having seen first hand what this horrible disease does to people and their families, I would be absolutely furious with someone faking it no matter what their motives. They are completely scum of the earth and deserve nothing more than the inside if a jail cell.
    This dark night shall end and the sun will rise again...
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    - Dad diagnosed in 1992 with primary bladder cancer
    - bladder removed and new one made from resected intestine
    - chemotherapy regimen started
    - mets to large intestines discovered in 1993...more chemo...tumors disappearing
    - complained of neck pain Dec 1994. Mets to brainstem confirmed
    - passed away Feb 24, 1995

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    Let them go through the same regime as someone with the real stuff, chemo, radiation, all side effects doctors appts, give them automatically stage 4 and mets to another organ and everything else except the support that they would need from a caregiver or family member. Let them suffer, it sounds mean, but hey it sounds good.

    Peter
    wife angela diagnosed with Ampullary cancer. Sep/12
    with mets to her liver
    started folfirinox on oct/12 with cd scan dec21
    ct scan scheduled in mar/12
    On Gemcitabine for 4 cycles
    Then another ct scan with good results
    Hoping for the best because she is my hero
    A few more spots on her liver and original,ones are larger
    New scan last week and showed improvement: scan showed
    no new tumors and big one got smaller, what a relief, best news
    October 2013 starting chemo again with radiation ( biggest tumour only)
    Doctor last resort chemo after being told exhausted all chemo options, caught us off gaurd
    No radiation, tumor too large, starting chemo again for 8 weeks and then scan
    waiting for scan, but do not want to see results until after the holidays
    results not good and now we have great days with family until time takes over
    never thought we would be here waiting for the end that we hope will never come
    Passed away, April 3, 2014. 18 months from since being diagnosed

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    There are many interesting articles on it. Here is one.

    http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ympathy-get-ri

    It was interesting to see in the article that faking cancer sometimes comes from having a genuine illness then wanting the attention to continue.

    Queensville
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    July 22 2011 Hubby (64) Diagnosed PanCan. Sept2011- Feb 2012: Abraxane/Gemcitabine. Feb-May 2012:Gemcitabine only. June-Sept 2012 5FU. Sept 4-no more chemo - Just living life. Multiple stents. Jan 2013/18 month mark. Mets everywhere. Looking for a bumper sticker that says 'Stay at safe distance - Driver suffering caregiver burnout'. Hospice Thurs Feb 28 2013. March 12 2013 he went off to his new adventure where we will one day meet again. It was 20 months from date of diagnosis until now.

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    They are the scum of the earth IMO.
    We do get most of them in the blood cancer forums as it seems "easier" to fake. Mostly young women with new boyfriends who want to help them as much as they can. Red flags go up with such posts usually and sometimes in very little time.
    They usually trip themselves up in the detail as they will in time with most cancers.
    So very hard when someone gets taken in and their heart and/or wallet are broken.
    There has to be a problem with those who do this but then again you also just have the scammers out for all they can get.

    Thank you for the link. Have bookmarked it.
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    Scum of the Earth...I also have to agree with that one. My mom lost her father to cancer when she was 34, then what it did to my dad, and on Tuesday it took my sweet grandfather. Attention, money, whatever the reason...I would also like to see them have to live in those shoes for a day. Either as a cancer sufferer, or as a loved one, take your pick. As long as they get to see how truly devastating it is to everyone that it touches.
    March 21, 2011 - Dad diagnosed. Pancreatic Adenocarcinoma on head of pancreas.
    April 2011 - Gemcitabine and radiation for a total of 12 weeks.
    October 14, 2011 - Successful Whipple procedure. Cancer free! Best 5 months of my life!!!
    March 2, 2012 - CT scan and discovery of possible mets to both lungs.
    March 23, 2012 - Biopsy confirmed recurrence.
    May 2, 2012 - Folfiri regimen started. Stopped after 2 treatments due to infection.
    June 2, 2012 - Switched to Xeloda
    Sept. 21, 2012 - No more chemo...treatment not working anymore. Now we wait and pray.
    October 6, 2012 - My dad is now at peace in Heaven, watching over us until we meet again.

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    Here is another interesting one,

    http://healthland.time.com/2012/11/3...nesses-online/

    Queensville
    July 22 2011 Hubby (64) Diagnosed PanCan. Sept2011- Feb 2012: Abraxane/Gemcitabine. Feb-May 2012:Gemcitabine only. June-Sept 2012 5FU. Sept 4-no more chemo - Just living life. Multiple stents. Jan 2013/18 month mark. Mets everywhere. Looking for a bumper sticker that says 'Stay at safe distance - Driver suffering caregiver burnout'. Hospice Thurs Feb 28 2013. March 12 2013 he went off to his new adventure where we will one day meet again. It was 20 months from date of diagnosis until now.

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    I just can not imagine some one wanting to fake something so horrific as cancer. My stomach just churned over thinking about it. In a way these people might be sicker than the people with cancer. Guess you should feel sorry for their needs. Still it makes me sick to think about it. Let all of us think back to the first day of diagnosis weather it was for you ,spouse, mother ,father brother or sister, friend. I am sure neither Joe or I will forget that day. Great link Queensville thanks.
    73 Year old Husband has/had:
    1-23-13 Mass on pancreas. Stent placed. Adenocarcinoma diag.
    Jan 31,2013. Stage three due to non operable.
    2-18-13 Port placed.
    2-19-13-First Folfox round. Folfox rounds reduced after third and tenth through 7-26-13.
    8-2-13 CT scan Mass strands have moved away from SMV.
    8-14-13 Whipple. Pathology clean margins no lymph involvement. Hospitalized 24 days.
    11-5-13 Still too weak after surgery and pneumonia for chemo
    12-4-13-CT scan and blood work
    12-10-13-CT scan clear NED Blood work Ca 19-9 35 No chemo or radiation at this time.WT184.6
    2-26-14 Next CT scan and Blood work Still NED Doing great so far.
    5-29-14 Next CT scan
    6-3-14 CT Scan still NED Ca 19-9 31.5
    8-26-14-CT Scan and blood work Ca 19-9 31.4 and Still NED
    12-2-14- CT Scan Ca19-9 30.1 NED with Concern for filled area on lung Check next scan. Could be more pneumonia scaring.WT211.7

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    I don't know which is worse, the internet version or the face to face version. Both are so damaging.

    Queensville
    July 22 2011 Hubby (64) Diagnosed PanCan. Sept2011- Feb 2012: Abraxane/Gemcitabine. Feb-May 2012:Gemcitabine only. June-Sept 2012 5FU. Sept 4-no more chemo - Just living life. Multiple stents. Jan 2013/18 month mark. Mets everywhere. Looking for a bumper sticker that says 'Stay at safe distance - Driver suffering caregiver burnout'. Hospice Thurs Feb 28 2013. March 12 2013 he went off to his new adventure where we will one day meet again. It was 20 months from date of diagnosis until now.

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    I've mentioned before that when I was fresh out of college, I started dating a man eight years older than me. Shortly into our relationship he told he had bone cancer. I was incredibly naive and believed him. We dated for a year and a half and while I realized as the relationship progressed that his stories did not add up, I just couldn't even bring myself to think that he would lie to me. My family and my friends (my close friend who is a nurse) all kept telling me that there was no way he could have cancer that his stories weren't adding up and he was healthy. I was a college educated teacher, but I just refused to believe someone I loved so much could possibly lie about something like that. I ended up alienated from my family and my friends, defending my boyfriend to them- he kept saying that my family obviously didn't like him because they didn't believe him.

    It took me a long time to come to grips with the fact that he was lying, call him on it and get him to admit that he had lied about the cancer. My dad, now battling pancreatic cancer, had wanted to kick this guy's a** so many times (and my dad is not a big guy nor was he ever prone to angry outbursts or violence- except when he saw what this guy was putting me through). In the end, we broke up, police involved because he was not accepting of my ending the relationship, and my friends and family welcomed me back with open arms. It took me a long time to trust again, matter of fact, I didn't date seriously again for five years after that, when I met my husband.

    This man lied to me to control me and to keep me in a relationship with him because what kind of a girl would leave a boyfriend when he's got cancer? Unfortunately it took me a year and a half to finally wise up. It's been many years now and my friends and I can look back and laugh- my dad though, going through what he's going through and even before, has never and will never find it funny- because I'm his daughter and no father wants to see his daughter in a relationship with a controlling liar.
    Kaye
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    Dad diagnosed pancreatic cancer October 2011
    chemo/radiation Oct-December 2011
    Whipple- January 2012
    Found out cancer spread- May 2012
    Stopping all treatment because it's not working- December 2012
    Enjoying any time we have left with him.

 
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