I lost my Mother on Dec 19th 2005 of liver cancer. She had a cancerous kidney removed two years before her death. She was told she had liver cancer 13 months before she died. She went threw hell with the treatments. The last time she was in the hospidal was in Nov with she had a few issues she needed blood tranfusions, and some other stuff. At this point it is all a blur.
She was told of the liver cancer in Nov of 2004 she did not tell me she was sick until March. I did not live in the same state so it was easy to hide at the time most of her treatments were things that did not include actually checking into the hospidal.
I moved back home with her after the last time she got out of the hospidal. She got bad very quick. Yet I was with her just under 6 weeks. It was so hard yet I am glad to have done what I could I have regrets even though I tryed really hard not to mess anything up.
After she died I talked to her best friend who told me that she was so proud of the care I was giving her. I still cry when I think of it.
I had hospice helping a couple times a week. Which was hard, we have a pretty private family.
I do wish I week home sooner. I did help her all summer she was only 65 miles from where I live. But I wish I moved back sooner to have had more time with her before she got so sick.
If you would like details or to email feel free. I wish I had someone when she was sick. Now I am trying to relate to other people going threw this to see if everything was "normal".
All the best to you and your family threw these very tough times.
Christine Newport Rhode Island
I had wanted to include that my Mother was 67 years old. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org
I'm very sorry about your mom. I think you did everything you could. I do the same thing...talk to other people who are going through what we went through to see if what happened to us happened to them. I get enormous comfort talking it out with other people who understand. It is incredible how quickly this beast can take someone. Take care and write back whenever you want to talk.
Metastases liver cancer
I just read Melanie's post and am in a similar position. My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer two and a half years ago which has now spread to her lungs and liver.
I also would like to know what to expect and I appreciate the post's I have read so far.
No one in my family has ever had cancer so this is a new road for us and I am scared for her. My sister has suffered tremendously these past two years and I just do not want her to suffer any more than she has to.
No one will give us a prognosis, is this normal? I guess it is because each person is different but I find western medicine very aggravating.
In reality I know enough to know she does not have very long, if any one has any advice or information I would sure appreciate it.
I look forward to reading more and hearing from any of you.
Sorry for the rambling, I am just at a loss in more ways than one!
Take care of YOUR health!!!!!
Re: life expectancy-liver metastasis
My mother passed away 2 days ago, after having liver cancer from Hepatitis B. Life expectancy is something that is very hard to tell from a doctors point of view. By the time my mother was diagnosed, she only had 3 months to live. The doctors were very reluctant to tell me how long she had to live because the estimations are quite difficult to make. They told me a couple of months so they were quite accurate.
However, cancer is very difficult to estimate how long the person has to live. They can get worse very rapidly like my mother did. If the cancer presses on a nerve, or a blood clot, or something like that, the estimate that the doctor makes becomes void. there are so many factors that can trigger an unexpectant death. My mother was in a coma for one day then died. Unfortunately i was not with her at the time of her death as i was far too tired, after spening 48hrs with her in the hospital non stop, watching her pulse, feeling her hand, making sure she was ok, i was so tired i felt like throwing up, i went home for 2 hrs to sleep and she was gone.
Guys, i just suggest that u should spend as much time with ur parents as possible, its quality and quantity, and i guess, dun feel too bad about it, they are moving to a better place, so yeah, in a sense its a blessing
God Bless you all
I'm really sorry for your loss. I read these posts and I get courage and try to spend as much time with mom as possible. Right now, 8 months after diagnosed with liver and lung cancer, she has developed jaundice. Don;t know what to expext next.
Liver Cancer and life expectancies
heya......I'm sorry this may not be very detailed but i would appreciate any replies....my mum's best friend has been diagnosed with liver cancer....apparently there are many tumours on her liver and its spread to her bones.....we live in france and my mum's friend lives in england.....thing is she hasn't told my mum the expected time she has left.....so unfortunately my mum has to guess.....but we dont have any clue with this.....apparently shes doing fine and acting normal she's had 3 chemo-radiotherapy sessions every monday for 3 weeks and that "supposedly" is to pro-long her time....i know it would b hard for anyone to tell me how long they may reckon she may have left....but i would really appreciate an educated guess, as we would like to think about when we could fly over.....thank you so much for your time....i hope for the best with everyone....thank you very much
Dennis I'm sorry for your loss.
I too am very familiar with some of the side effects and problems that arise from Liver Cancer. My father was diagnosed with liver cancer in June 05. Only a month after having succesful heart bypass surgery. As you can imagine my family experienced a tremendous high, only to have it follow by a heart sinking low.
While at the hospital my dad suffered a cardiac arrest and the bypass graphs clogged. On top of that his kidney started to fail him as a result of some of the medication and studies he was getting. He required daily dyalisis and was bed ridden for 2 weeks. Some how, miraculously, my dads kidneys started to function on their own again and he was taken out of intensive care. A week later my father had recovered enough to be able to go home under hospice care.
When my dad was released from the hospital doctors gave him 3 months to live. My dad has come back from the brink of death so many times while at the hospital. Since he was released home, he has never had another life threatening episode. He actually started to look better and his morale changed dramatically. Well over a year has passed since my father was told that he only had 3 months to live and he is still with us.
The first big scare I have had was yesterday. My dad's health has slowly deteriorated over the past two months. His jaundice is much more noticeble now, and the itching of the skin has gotten worst. This all leads me to believe that his liver fuction is getting much worst. My mom informed me yesterday that my dad was pretty much bed ridden the entire day. When I saw him, he looked extremely fatigued and I noticed his arms were shaking. We took him to the hospital last night and fortunately his heart was stable. However, the fact that his liver is continuing to fail is a sad reminder that my dad does not have much longer to live.
What I recommend to all of you is to be with your family as much as you can. They are the people who will get you thru these very difficult and sad times. Never give up and continue to be strong for the one that is ill.
Life expectancy - liver metastasis
Thanks to everybody for writing about this topic.
I am 53 and I have liver metastasis from ovarian cancer. The cancer came back last February 05. In December I went into chemotherapy. Since then the cancer has responded to the treatment moderately.
Now they are changing to another chemo drug.
Untill two weeks ago I have been pain free. Then I began to have pain in the side and across my abdomen. A lot of pain. Presently they give me Tylenol 3 . I know that I do not have much to live.
In what I read here, I understand that the end can happen quickly. I hope that it will be in this way for me. I have cancer since 2002.
During these years I have come to term with the disease and the fact that I will die young and the fact that I have to leave my daughter. I have dealt with the pain and the loss.
I hope to be able to have some time yet to live pain free.
But I begin to be afraid to ask too many questions. I hope that the end will come quickly, and that I will not have to undergo surgeries or other procedures.
I am at peace inside, and this is very very important for me.
Today, here in Vancouver, Canada, I will go to a walk for ovarian cancer!
I have not slept because of the discomfort in my abdomen, I hope that I will be able to walk.
Please continue to write about your experience of the end.
It is very comforting for me to hear your story.
Re: Life expectancy - liver metastasis
Originally Posted by Marta1
There are various type of "pain management" solutions that your doctor or hospital can provide to you. If you continue to have sustained discomfort I would suggest you talk to your doctor about possibly changing meds. Perhaps you need a stronger pain medication than what you are currently taking.
I wish you the very best and please keep your chin up. I am glad that you have come to terms with your condition. To many that is the hardest part.
Good luck to you.