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    My dad, The Bear...

    He spent his life doing good and helping those in need. He spent his life so that i can be proud of myself and have my own family. May his soul rest in peace.

    My dad, Branko Mile Naskovski which we all kindly called him The Bear was born on 12 July 1949 in extreme poverty. Grew up in poverty but has been extremely intelligent and succeeded in life. Finished military academy and finished faculty of economics and finances after academy. Worked for the army but later started working for health care. We was a financial manager when he got ill. Was a war veteran during the 2001 conflict.

    Was a good man, father and husband. We all lived happily. He spent all his earnings so that me and my sister could get the best education available. He loved and always stood by my mother.

    He got diagnosed with planocelular carcinoma in the bronchi and right upper lung lobus on 29 April 2011. He received 6 shots of chemotherapy (Taxol) before he had his upper right lung lobe removed during a surgery on 6 September 2011. He struggled a lot to recover from the surgery and also survived a couple of critical situations of lung collapsing. But he survived. We always stood by his side and never left him alone.

    We started living normal lives from 1 January till 25 April since he recovered so well. He got back to work when he was given an award for doing great deeds for the hospital he worked at. But the cancer got back with a revenge. He started feeling spinal pain all of a sudden. I thought that he got injured since he started doing physical work. After we did an xray the orthopedist suggested a bone marrow scan. We did the scan and it showed up metastases in the spine and pelvis. The same day we did an abdominal echo which showed liver cancer 4 x 4cm in diameter. Later the same day we did a lungs xray which showed a huge shadow in both his lungs. Then the oncologist prescribed Methadone and that was all the healthcare did for him.

    Then i took him home. Set his bedroom as sick room. Moved furniture so it was easy for him to get up and move around. We slept in the same room with him giving him medicine, food and company. But later he couldn't swallow anymore. The Methadone was no good and he was in much pain. Then i took him to hospice facility where he spent his last 32 days. I spent my time at his side. Mom and sister helped so i could go to work and get some sleep. I wouldn't survive without them.

    He spent his last moments in company with his family. I laid down on his bed and had his head put on my shoulder. I spent the last hour holding him in my arms and talking to him. He looked at us (me, mom and sis. He recognized only me and didn't recognize my mom and sister during the last 4 weeks) one by one but couldn't say anything. 5 minutes before his last breath he got his strength and asked about my little daughter. I told him that she is up in the mountain villa with my wife and her parents having fun and playing in the sand. Then 5 minutes later, he squeezed my hand, drew his last breath, opened his eyes and let his soul go. It was 8 July 2012, just 4 days from his 63-rd birthday at 11:45 central European time.

    I was destroyed. I lost my idol, my guide and my mentor. I can't say much. i just cant find the words. The loss is huge. I lost a part of myself. I will forever miss him and think of him. We all love him so much. That wound will never heal.
    I am sorry but as we do not allow personal pictures on this forum I have had to delete your picture.
    Feel free though to download them into an album here and you can then tell us they are there to view.


    Pals for all times. Your soul continues with me. Rest in peace Bear.




    Since the forum's policy regarding photos changed i will repost my photo.
    Last edited by Falanga; 07-08-2013 at 07:03 PM. Reason: Picture

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    I thought that pictures are allowed as long as they don't cause bad feelings for other people. But anyways, there is no problem. I look at is photos and remember him all the time. That's just how things are. I have always been a rebel, but it's time to settle down like my dad would do

    Love you people. Stay well.

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    Mile, What a beautiful tribute to your Father. You have very large footsteps to follow. Make him proud as you did in his final days. God Bless.
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    Caregiver to my Dad, who was diagnosed in June 2010 with Stage 1V NSCLC with single met to brain,
    He sadly lost his battle in August 2010 and we miss his smiling Irish blue eyes terribly.
    My Dad's story:
    http://www.cancerforums.net/threads/...th-how-he-died.

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    I think you did the most wonderful and magnificent job. a
    May The Odds Be Ever In Your Favour. Born 1960. Diagnosed 4/2011 with one tumor, LUL, NSCLC. Tumor size 1.1 inches. Thoracic surgery 6/1/2011. No action taken. Eight weeks of radiation and chemo. Carbo and Taxol. Follow up with four rounds of Carbo and Alimta.
    December 2011 CT scan shows all clear.
    April 2012 CT scan shows all clear. July 2012 had several x-rays taken at the chiropractor for shoulder pain. Took them to the onc and nothing suspicious noted. See them again in Oct.
    October didn't work out. Pain in the left shoulder continued to worsen and lymph nodes in the supraclavical swelled so I called the onc and they bumped the regular scan up to September 19 and we went for the results on the 24th. The tumor is back and the spread is extensive. Option 1: Try targeting chemos that may work and then on to clinical trials. These would give me about a year or so if the cancer responds. Option 2: Do no treatment and let nature take its course. This will give me six months give or take. As good as I feel right now, Iím going for door #2 and will continue to live well and enjoy myself until I donít. Iíll keep you posted. Live it up everyone!

    7 months into hospice and palliative care. It has been a very good relationship with the organization as a whole with a minor glitch. April 2013 spent the night at hospice facility, PICC line inserted for morphine drip. I said I wouldnít but, had a hospital bed delivered. Started 10 rounds of palliative radiation to shrink the neck tumor. Busy month for me!

    I've taken a couple of nasty falls this last week. (first of & mid-May) Right on the cancer shoulder. So I have a life alert necklace on me now. I wish I could get my hands on a small scooter!

    There is another node swelling on the other side of my neck. Still small.

    April51's (Jody) daughter posted that her Mother's journey in this world had ended on July 8th 2013.You touched so very many lives. Soar high Jody!

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    Hi Falanga

    A picture tells a thousand words. I can tell by your Fathers body language that he loved you very very much.

    Take care my friend
    Age 62
    Diffuse Large B cell Lymphoma
    Stage 2a Bulky presentation
    Finished six cycles of R chop 21 26th May 2008
    Officially in remission 9th July 2008
    Remission reconfirmed 1st October 2008
    Remission reconfirmed 17th June 2009
    Remission reconfirmed 7th June 2010
    Remission reconfirmed 6th July 2011

    NED AND DECLARED CURED on the 2/01/2013

    No more scheduled visits to the Prof
    http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=9620

    Still alive in 2019 !

    RULE NUMBER 1.....Don't Panic
    RULE NUMBER 2..... Don't forget rule Number 1

    Great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

    I may not have gone where I intended to go,
    but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.

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    I can freely say that me, my daughter and my sister are my dad's (and mom's) biggest achievement in his life.

    I am preparing a small collection of our dearest photos. I will have them posted tomorrow.

    Just for clarification, as i understood the new forum policy i should not post any photos taken when my dad was ill? I mean i wouldn't put photos of him during his last days, just some normal photos which i don't find disturbing.

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    I can also tell that he was a proud and strong man. Illness doesn't take that away from us. a

    As are you Mile...Just like your father. a
    May The Odds Be Ever In Your Favour. Born 1960. Diagnosed 4/2011 with one tumor, LUL, NSCLC. Tumor size 1.1 inches. Thoracic surgery 6/1/2011. No action taken. Eight weeks of radiation and chemo. Carbo and Taxol. Follow up with four rounds of Carbo and Alimta.
    December 2011 CT scan shows all clear.
    April 2012 CT scan shows all clear. July 2012 had several x-rays taken at the chiropractor for shoulder pain. Took them to the onc and nothing suspicious noted. See them again in Oct.
    October didn't work out. Pain in the left shoulder continued to worsen and lymph nodes in the supraclavical swelled so I called the onc and they bumped the regular scan up to September 19 and we went for the results on the 24th. The tumor is back and the spread is extensive. Option 1: Try targeting chemos that may work and then on to clinical trials. These would give me about a year or so if the cancer responds. Option 2: Do no treatment and let nature take its course. This will give me six months give or take. As good as I feel right now, Iím going for door #2 and will continue to live well and enjoy myself until I donít. Iíll keep you posted. Live it up everyone!

    7 months into hospice and palliative care. It has been a very good relationship with the organization as a whole with a minor glitch. April 2013 spent the night at hospice facility, PICC line inserted for morphine drip. I said I wouldnít but, had a hospital bed delivered. Started 10 rounds of palliative radiation to shrink the neck tumor. Busy month for me!

    I've taken a couple of nasty falls this last week. (first of & mid-May) Right on the cancer shoulder. So I have a life alert necklace on me now. I wish I could get my hands on a small scooter!

    There is another node swelling on the other side of my neck. Still small.

    April51's (Jody) daughter posted that her Mother's journey in this world had ended on July 8th 2013.You touched so very many lives. Soar high Jody!

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    Wait April. You won't believe some photos you are gonna see tomorrow

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    Our cultures don't set us aside from each other. Our dad's are our rock. And our soft place to fall. a
    May The Odds Be Ever In Your Favour. Born 1960. Diagnosed 4/2011 with one tumor, LUL, NSCLC. Tumor size 1.1 inches. Thoracic surgery 6/1/2011. No action taken. Eight weeks of radiation and chemo. Carbo and Taxol. Follow up with four rounds of Carbo and Alimta.
    December 2011 CT scan shows all clear.
    April 2012 CT scan shows all clear. July 2012 had several x-rays taken at the chiropractor for shoulder pain. Took them to the onc and nothing suspicious noted. See them again in Oct.
    October didn't work out. Pain in the left shoulder continued to worsen and lymph nodes in the supraclavical swelled so I called the onc and they bumped the regular scan up to September 19 and we went for the results on the 24th. The tumor is back and the spread is extensive. Option 1: Try targeting chemos that may work and then on to clinical trials. These would give me about a year or so if the cancer responds. Option 2: Do no treatment and let nature take its course. This will give me six months give or take. As good as I feel right now, Iím going for door #2 and will continue to live well and enjoy myself until I donít. Iíll keep you posted. Live it up everyone!

    7 months into hospice and palliative care. It has been a very good relationship with the organization as a whole with a minor glitch. April 2013 spent the night at hospice facility, PICC line inserted for morphine drip. I said I wouldnít but, had a hospital bed delivered. Started 10 rounds of palliative radiation to shrink the neck tumor. Busy month for me!

    I've taken a couple of nasty falls this last week. (first of & mid-May) Right on the cancer shoulder. So I have a life alert necklace on me now. I wish I could get my hands on a small scooter!

    There is another node swelling on the other side of my neck. Still small.

    April51's (Jody) daughter posted that her Mother's journey in this world had ended on July 8th 2013.You touched so very many lives. Soar high Jody!

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    Mile your tribute and Photo was Very Moving....It just seeps love...
    Hugggs
    Roni

 

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