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    I need advice please

    My mother in law is 89 years old and a stomach cancer survivor for 20 years. The problem now is her complete lack of appetite, she is seriously under weight and I am at my wits end trying to get her even vaguely interested in eating. Mum was always small and struggled to keep her weight at 40 kilos but now she is down to 36. If she was a younger woman or vain I would think she is anorexic.

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    My mother in law is 89 years old and a stomach cancer survivor for 20 years. The problem now is her complete lack of appetite, she is seriously under weight and I am at my wits end trying to get her even vaguely interested in eating. Mum was always small and struggled to keep her weight at 40 kilos but now she is down to 36. If she was a younger woman or vain I would think she is anorexic.
    has she seen a doctor about this and is her cancer back?
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    Yes she sees her doctor regularly and there is no sign of cancer. She does have pernicious anemia and an underactive thyroid. Also she suffers from urinary tract infections on a regular basis. Mum has a deep hatred of being away from home but even the thought of the doctor admitting her to hospital won't get her to eat. She says she's not in pain and doesn't feel sick just isn't hungry.

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    Tried a new thing tonight, I ate the same amount as mum. Matched her mouthful for mouthful, when she pushed her plate away I pushed mine away too. She looked at me and said you didn't each much. I replied I will eat as much as you, made no difference. sigh. Tried everything I really don't know what to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by emmacat View Post
    Tried a new thing tonight, I ate the same amount as mum. Matched her mouthful for mouthful, when she pushed her plate away I pushed mine away too. She looked at me and said you didn't each much. I replied I will eat as much as you, made no difference. sigh. Tried everything I really don't know what to do.
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    My MIL does this.... and in my opinion she is a bit anorexic. Food is the ONLY thing in her life that she can control now. Good job on mirroring her so she can see how much is really eating.

    I would suggest a meal supplement such as insure or boost.... i am not sure what the EU equivalent is.

    Have you asked for an appetite stimulant?
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    Quote Originally Posted by emmacat View Post
    My mother in law is 89 years old and a stomach cancer survivor for 20 years. The problem now is her complete lack of appetite, she is seriously under weight and I am at my wits end trying to get her even vaguely interested in eating. Mum was always small and struggled to keep her weight at 40 kilos but now she is down to 36. If she was a younger woman or vain I would think she is anorexic.
    If you are worried please see a medical professional. There really is not a lot we can do for you. I don't think we have an 89 year old 20 year survivors here, hopefully we will have in the future but now no.

    There are other web sites available for this type of thing but really it sounds like you need someone who knows what they are talking about. A specialist in Geriatric medicine maybe in order.

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    Tried a new thing tonight, I ate the same amount as mum. Matched her mouthful for mouthful, when she pushed her plate away I pushed mine away too. She looked at me and said you didn't each much. I replied I will eat as much as you, made no difference. sigh. Tried everything I really don't know what to do.
    This is an interesting approach, I feel with more time it could start to hit home. There are also a few solutions on the market that can help stimulate an appetite. Sometimes the only thing lacking is the willingness.

    Bets of luck.
    Last edited by jeffnevil; 04-20-2015 at 10:11 AM. Reason: adding quotes

 

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