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    Leaving the Country - New at coping

    Hi all.
    I apologize if this post is in the wrong place.

    I found out a few nights ago that my father has colon cancer. Now, we don't know how serious it is yet, the doctors said that they caught it early. He will be going in for surgery here in the next few weeks, and we will find out then.

    5 months ago, I was given an offer for a temporary job in Europe that will start this coming Monday.
    I do not know if I will actually be needed at home with my dad, as it is expected that he will recover fully. But I feel that I am abandoning my family if I were to move and take this job. Even though it is only for 4 months, I am struggling with whether or not I should go overseas.

    There is a plan that I set up in case the surgery comes with bad news, wherein I will be flying home immediately.

    Am I being selfish for even considering leaving? I hands-down wouldn't go, but there is really nothing I can do for the next 3 weeks until my dad gets surgery.

    Any advice/stories would be appreciated.

    Thank you in advance.

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    Dear robotgirlsc: About the only piece of wisdom I can add was something my father taught me, and it is: "Never resolve a doubt against yourself." There will be some knowledgeable people along in here quite shortly, and seeing as bailing on the job now and a bit later will probably be viewed equally dimly by your new employers, you might as well wait until you know more. And no, you are NOT being selfish for flying out to your new job!! Especially if he is expected to make a full recovery!!
    05/6/16 pre-op physical for surgery show low WBC & RBC
    5/22/16 [Birthday] Results of BM biopsy: AML 25% blasts with inv t(3:3) mutation, HIGH risk
    5/30/16 Undergo 3+7 chemo, but it doesn't touch AML, infections nearly kill me. Blasts 65%
    7/04/16 Diagnosis now Refractory AML. [:tombstone:]Six cycles of azacitidine, 21 shots over 7 days w/ 1.5" needle into gut + below navel.
    11/05/16 Move to NOLA - Infusion center 4 minutes away. 15 shots for 5 days with 5/8" 25 ga. needle Huge increase in quality of life.
    12/28/16 BMB shows blasts 12%
    4/16/17 BMB shows CD34 16%, cycles dropped to 4 weeks
    7/20/17 Diagnosis changed to "indolent leukemia", aka MDS
    7/27/17 BMB shows CD34 17%
    8/15/17 Venclexta chemo in PILL form added Onc estimates survival time now 2 - 4 YEARS.
    10/26/17 BMB results show 17/20 metaphases with inv(3:3) mutation-low blood cell counts - transfusions ineffective
    12/4/17 Diagnosis: Uncontrolled refractory AML

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    Thank you for that. I appreciate you taking the time to help me!

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    You're welcome, and to get replies from people who know more, it would be good if you could post the exact details of the diagnosis, with the results of any tests that were used to form the diagnosis. Do that immediately, and then you can go visit the orchid garden for a break: https://www.cancerforums.net/threads...-garden-by-DMW
    05/6/16 pre-op physical for surgery show low WBC & RBC
    5/22/16 [Birthday] Results of BM biopsy: AML 25% blasts with inv t(3:3) mutation, HIGH risk
    5/30/16 Undergo 3+7 chemo, but it doesn't touch AML, infections nearly kill me. Blasts 65%
    7/04/16 Diagnosis now Refractory AML. [:tombstone:]Six cycles of azacitidine, 21 shots over 7 days w/ 1.5" needle into gut + below navel.
    11/05/16 Move to NOLA - Infusion center 4 minutes away. 15 shots for 5 days with 5/8" 25 ga. needle Huge increase in quality of life.
    12/28/16 BMB shows blasts 12%
    4/16/17 BMB shows CD34 16%, cycles dropped to 4 weeks
    7/20/17 Diagnosis changed to "indolent leukemia", aka MDS
    7/27/17 BMB shows CD34 17%
    8/15/17 Venclexta chemo in PILL form added Onc estimates survival time now 2 - 4 YEARS.
    10/26/17 BMB results show 17/20 metaphases with inv(3:3) mutation-low blood cell counts - transfusions ineffective
    12/4/17 Diagnosis: Uncontrolled refractory AML

 

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