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Thread: My dad has skin cancer and no money. What do I do?

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    My dad has skin cancer and no money. What do I do?

    My dad was diagnosed with skin cancer a few years back but he had it for a long time, it took a different family member going to the ER for the doctors to basically force him to get the hole in his face checked out. Since then he has lost an eye, his car, and has to live in the most disgusting house I have ever stepped foot in with the most conflict driven people I have ever met. Being a early twenty something year old female who doesn't work due to a mental disorder I have no idea how to help him but seeing him in that situation is ripping my heart out and I don't know what to do. I want to give him money but I have a good $2.35 to my name. Just looking for a little advice and to vent a little bit. Any information helps. Also he is tech challenged so anything involving technology and him just is not going to work.

    Thanks in advanced for any feedback.

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    Dear Kace: My heart goes out to you in your current situation, but seeing as you have no money whatsoever, your own mental disorder to deal with, and a totally uncooperative father, I don't see that you have any options open to you. If you can stand the other inmates of this rotting crash pad, you can spend some time with him knowing in your own heart that these are his final days, and perhaps get some peace out of that. If you cannot do that, then I would advise that you simply adopt the attitude that he has slipped into a coma, even though the facts may not totally support that viewpoint, and seek some peace for YOURSELF. If your dad has chosen to go out the hard way in a disgusting hovel, then he is beyond your reach just as surely as if he were in a descending fugue coma, so just "let go" and save yourself. To repeat, it IS true that he is completely beyond your reach at this point, so try to find some peace for yourself in this situation. The man that you loved years ago is already dead and gone, and what's left is simply an empty husk, and you need to accept this fact to get free of this very toxic situation. I pray that you can find some peace in a relatively short time, and from the sound of it this can't go on very long at all.

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    I would suggest talking to a social worker at a hospital AND financial assistance at a hospital.
    67 year old husband diagnosed with Periphial T Cell Lymphoma Feb. 2015
    5 rounds of CHOPE chemo put him into remission for 2 years....
    June 2017 Relapse....radiation planned
    Develops ITP, Low platelets....Hospitalized 3 days to be given Gamma Gloublin....discharged....gave prednisone but forgot to give scripts for that and Klonopin....results in rage from Prednisone.....second time this has happened. Had one instance of it during previous chemo.
    ITP recurs....4,000 platelets
    New Oncologist called in that specializes only in Lymphoma. He changed Al to Decradon (Sp?), a steroid. Platelets went up to 173,000 but as of August 16 went down to 23,000. One more infusion planned in a week then PET scan and Dr. visit......
    Also caregiver to our 40 year old son who had a benign ependymoma tumor removed when he was 14 years old. 6 brain surgeries.
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